what is the best age to tell a kid when Santa clause is not real
2006-12-27 20:24:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Other - Holidays
my parents never told me. santa still visits. as far as i'm concerned, don't ruin a good thing.
they'll figure it out on their own. it's good to let children discover some things themselves
2006-12-27 20:27:24 · answer #1 · answered by Pipi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever you want, I'm assuming you mean well after they have started talking, like 2 or 3.
Most importantly, do not make a big deal out of it. They will pick up on your mood, and if you make it seem like a big letdown it will probably make it more of a problem for them. If you can present the idea that santa does not exist as something trivial, and avoid making them feel a sense of loss, then you could make it much easier for them. Perhaps you could introduce them with a new explanation that santa is not real BUT people still get presents, and they get them from each other because people care for and love each other. This could make it into a positive experience for them of a new door opening with something bright in it rather than a door closing and a saddening loss.
2006-12-27 20:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by Brendan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's a tricky question, but I think in all honesty, kids tend to find out on their own, through their peers, as they got older.
My kids have this idea that there is 'someone' who comes in on Xmas, and puts these goodies under the tree, but I think as they got older, they started to figure out that it was us, but now they make it into a joke about Santa coming here, delivering goods.
my kids weren't really devastated, to tell you the truth. They seemed to be okay with it, once they started to realize that their friends were all saying the same thing. It wasn't like they felt they were the 'only' ones in the world who didn't know Santa wasn't real, but they still laugh about when they were younger, and believed it!!
2006-12-27 20:30:06 · answer #3 · answered by argamedius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I woulnd't ever tell my kids (if I had kids) such a lie. It's nicer for the kids to know that their presents come from their parents and not Santa. You can foster their imaginations in better ways. Fiction can be wonderful, but kids should be able to differentiate between what is fictional and what is real as early as possible. Playing make-believe is healthy, but it is just that - "make believe."
2006-12-27 20:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Never tell a kid santa claus is real in the first place. It teaches kids its ok to fabricate lies and simply perpetrates a dishonest mentality in todays world. yeah, the story of the original santa is heartwarming and feel good, but teaching kids to believe in fairy tales is nothing short of lying to your child.
2006-12-27 20:29:15 · answer #5 · answered by Sean R 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell them. They will understand how Santa Claus exists on their own
2015-12-05 16:24:55 · answer #6 · answered by Yuri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never good to lie to a child. From the beginning, teach your child the value of truth.
2006-12-27 20:27:56 · answer #7 · answered by HF 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
certainly before 12 I would say even at 5. so they understand they can not expect every thing they wont that you are paying for it. once they are getting poket money they should be encouraged to buy presents for others.
2006-12-27 21:07:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Blearrg
2006-12-27 20:27:05 · answer #9 · answered by Soung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i have my kids, i will make it clear that he does not exist when they first hear about it. i don't see the point to lie to them to begin with.
2006-12-27 20:27:34 · answer #10 · answered by kruzito21 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋