7mo old now, its his first baby, we have alot of problems in our relationship w/ trust, he's an alcoholic, jobless, lives w/ his mom, he's 26, alot of ppl say he's unfaithful, he's controlling, was violent, but got some help 4 that issue, i care about him, love him, but dont know what to do, because he's made threats 2 hurt me n my family if i dont work things out w/ him, he keeps promising 2 change in the new yr, and he's the stalker type...to keep myself, my 2kids and my siblings and parents safe, do i stay w/ him or 4get bout him n pray he doesnt do anything. his family has long history of violence, alcolholism, getting revenge. @ the moment, im not talking to him, but feel fearful for ev1 i know n want 2 maybe give him a chance jus 4 our daughters sake....what do i do?
2006-12-27 20:16:29 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Before he thinks you plan to leave him, get a restraining order and get the custody order started.
Explain everything in the restraining order, his threats.
He probably won't go after you, if he did, you have proof that he threatened you and he will never get away with it. He is only threatning you becase he's insecure and you probably are too and he feeds off your insecurities.
YOu have to chose your family over fear.
I have been through this exact situation, I will happily talk you through the more indepth steps. But please get away from the guy. He can never take care of you, you will find a better guy to give you and your children everything you need.
Free Yourself!
2006-12-27 20:23:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is nothing but trouble. Just toss him to the curb. Let someone else invest their time and energy into him. You have kids to think about. You will make a better role model without him. There are laws that can help protect you, just contact your local police department or get a protective order. He is making threats to hurt you. That is illegal. I am guessing you don't really love him, I see more fear than love. He is trying to use that as power. You have more courage than you think. Trust me there is someone out there for you that isn't this looser.
2006-12-27 20:30:46 · answer #2 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have kids to think about and you need to put them first; it sounds like he has been and always will be unstable..why would you want to put yourself and kids in the line of fire of an explosive personality?
If he is explosive and violent, not be be the naysayer of the bunch, you have to be civil but firm with him about cleaning up and the only way you can possibly do that is to have distance yourself emotionally from the situation.
If he cleans up like he has been promising but not delivering, then maybe, and then only then, maybe let him have a relationship with your daughter.
2006-12-27 20:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police...make sure that you stay away from him.
He is co-co crazy...and you know that.
Give him a chance for your daughter's sake?
Why do you want someone like that to be an influence on your daughter?
2006-12-27 20:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by ladydrea2918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about him, move on. Ask yourself what would you want your daughters to do if they where in this kind of harmful relationship. They are looking at you for guidence don't let them think that this is how a man is suppose to treat you.
2006-12-27 20:20:19 · answer #5 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 09:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out, get a restraining order, get your life organised so you can provide for yourself and your kids, never ever ever again fall for some controlling a sshole like him again.
2006-12-27 20:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on. been there did that it only get's worst.
2006-12-27 20:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by ms_lique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't br a victim...seek help
2006-12-27 20:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Wat Da Hell 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋