2006-12-27 20:07:26 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The popular wisdom is that bisexuals are gay only when their wives or girlfriends won't put-out. Then they go back when things get better. So there's mistrust from the gay community toward them.
2006-12-27 20:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
I find straights more accepting than gays. For years I'd bought the notion that bis are indecisive opportunists. But I realized that was so far off the mark my life didn't make sense and I was lost in a fog of confusion. I am completely bemused and frustrated when I go out on the scene because I can't connect with anyone. And I'm not talking about picking someone up; it's like we don't speak the same language. This is from a guy who's empathetic, a psychology graduate and a trained psychotherapist so you gotta believe how big this disconnect is.
2006-12-28 05:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Adam W 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes yes and sometimes no. It depends on who I'm with and where I am. In a lesbian bar or club? I feel like an alien. Like there's this secret side to me that would totally turn any woman off if they knew. In a gay bar? It's more fun because it's not like the gay guys care if I hang out as long as I don't crimp their style. :)
When it comes to community stuff related to social justice issues I can usually find a niche in the so-called community because it's all us crazy activist types. But that doesn't necessarily translate into a social life!
2006-12-28 07:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have quite a few gay friends, but no, I don't feel 'included' in the community as a whole. Bisexuals tend to get the worst end of the deal because we're fair game to get herassed or bothered by gays and straights.
2006-12-28 06:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
As a bisexual, I don't think we are part of the gay community. We are related to them, but more like distant cousins. This is because, unlike being straight or gay, we have a low to nonexistant gender preference. Being gay indicates a sexual and emotional preference of the same sex, while being straight indicates a preference of the opposite sex. Being bi means that gender plays little to no role in looking for and choosing a partner. Because of this, I don't feel like I'm part of the gay community. I support them, though, because after all, I am 50% lesbian!
2006-12-28 05:45:26 · answer #5 · answered by roxusan 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
No, we rarely feel included in the gay community. Ironically, we are stuck in two closests - hiding from both straights and gays! Many gays treat us like we're "confused", "greedy", "looking for attention", etc. We also get the same homophobia from the straight community. It is not easy being a bisexual these days, that's for sure! Oh for the days of yore, like the Roman Empire, where bisexuality was the norm... :)
2006-12-28 04:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Pipes 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Speaking as a man who is married to a bisexual woman I can tell you that the bigotry they experience, comes from the gay community almost exclusively.
And that is the one group that should know what it's like to be discriminated against.
And yet they keep saying things like "choose one or the other, stop being a hypocrite" and other such hurtful things.
It's a shame really, I used to feel sorry for them and the discrimination they recieved. Now I'm not so sure it isn't wholly deserved...
2006-12-28 07:32:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Speaking just for myself, I have never felt included in the gay community. As a rule they seem to hate bi's. I am always being called a hypocrite and told to "make up my mind". I made it up decades ago, I'm bi. You see it repeatedly on this forum, gays keep insisting we don't exist, that it's impossible to be anything but exclusively gay or exclusively straight. The things that attract me to a person aren't related to gender, they can occur in either a man or woman, and I've had wonderful relationships with both. I've never understood why people can't accept that.
2006-12-28 11:47:29 · answer #8 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
i very much support gay rights (rights off all people for that matter). one owrld, one love. but whether or not i am considered a part of the gay community is irrelevent to me. the fact that i am bi is not all of who i am. it's like my hair color or the fact that i have crazy drawn to green. it's just a fact about me. one of the many things i am. it's not a secret (everyone knows), but it's not a big thing either.
2006-12-28 06:17:41 · answer #9 · answered by wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no majoritys usually hate minoritys and I'm a minority in a minority.
I suggest bi people just be themselves though, after all there is much more to life than just sex. Sometimes I am bored shitless hearing about gay and lesbian minority problems because they themselves can be just as narrow minded and self rightious as the straights and well, whats more boreing than hypocracy. Yawn, more hypocracy, isn't the world stuff full of enough of that yet?
2006-12-28 04:51:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋