My neighbour is older than me.She's a girl.Her family just came to an apartment next door.She doesn't know anyone except me.I dont know what we should talk about.Even my cousins ask me why I dont talk to them.Its like Im afraid of them.What should I do to cure this sickness.
2006-12-27 19:51:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
always ask them a question when you first see them like "what's up?"
2006-12-27 19:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Hockeyplaya88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly its not a sickness, its normal. Its a human thing...
Just remember that yip she is a girl, but thats it, she is just a girl.
She is the ´new kid on the block´, make her feel welcomed, ask her about where she came from and her old school, if she still keeps in contact with her friends. Ask her what she likes to do. Maybe she likes movies then you could go watch a movie. Maybe she likes sports, then you can talk abou that.
Let her know that you just next door if she needs anything or just wants to talk. Girls like that kind of thing...
Just relax... you nervous to speak to her. Just imagine how she feels, she knows nobody! So she is much more nervous than you!
I wish you luck! Let us know how it goes!
2006-12-27 19:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by BadGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first step in becoming comfortable talking to women is being comfortable with yourself. Do you find yourself attractive to some degree? Are there [physical] things about you that you'd like to improve or change (weight, teeth, hair, skin, etc...). If you aren't comfortable in your own skin, forget trying to even hang out with women on a romantic basis.
Once you're past that, girls are actually quite easy to talk to. Make sure you always look them in the eyes whenever conversation is taking place and simply remember to ask open-ended questions. Once you get a girl talking, especially about herself, be ready to keep the conversation going with follow-up questions. As long as you listen, you will come off as a super-sweet guy (whether you're actually listening or not).
Btw, as a guy (I'm assuming you are) you should be aware that most girls are much more insecure than most guys are (especially the prettiest ones). Armed with that information, you should know that you've already got a 1-up on most girls you meet because they've got a whole lot more emotional baggage to worry about (looks, weight, dad issues, ex-bf issues, etc...).
Lastly, if you want a girl to like you, just make sure that you stir up some sort of emotional response from her whether it's positive or negative. Even with a negative response (let's say you tease the crap out of her) she'll eventually settle down and ask herself why she is spending so much time thinking about you and why she is reacting so strongly. Most of the time, girls will come to the conclusion that they must like you.
Don't believe me? Try it and see what happens. Good luck!
2006-12-27 20:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by apulidous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself. think of it this way: its only a human being. Talk to her as if you were talking to your friends. You better start talking before some other guy does and thats when you'll regret. Stop being shy, girls hate that. Its cute at first but can get very annoying. Break the ice and go for it. Introduce yourself and say something like " So how do you like this town so far?" or "I can show you some great restaurants/malls/etc whenever you're free"...Just anything to get the conversation going. GO FOR IT :)
2006-12-27 19:54:32 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. Q & A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and be yourself> Don't be so up tite chill out. If you have to you talk to her first then let her do all the talking for you!! Or take someone that you know very good with you to met her and then you might not feel so nerves around her because you have someone else there you know. Make conversation with both of them back and forth then let them talk so you don't have to all the time!!
2006-12-28 04:02:43 · answer #5 · answered by wow 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lewis, this is perfectly normal to feel that way. Take the pressure off yourself. You put unneccesary expectations on yourself and her. Relax, just talk to her like you would a friend. Women can smell fear, and if you're tense, she will be too.
Visualize a positive result, smile, and be yourself. Confidence, even if you have to fake it at first is a major plus with women.
2006-12-27 19:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about just realizing she is just a person like you. She isn't going to bite you. Why not start off with Hi, how are you? Talk about music, movies, etc. What do you talk to your guy friends about when others are around? Just keep it light. We understand your nervous, happens to all of us from time to time.
2006-12-27 19:56:21 · answer #7 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of them as your "boy" friends and you should be fine. All the best!
2006-12-27 19:54:30 · answer #8 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋