Me and my man has been together for the last 4 years, everything was great but yesterday I found out that he has another girlfriend which began a year ago. being human, I cried, call, angry, hurt and of course even beg. What have I done wrong that he could do this to me. When I asked him, what he is gonna do with both of us, he said he wants both of us. With me becoz he has loved me longer and still do. The other girl, it was a moment of fancy becoz they were frm the same graduate school. My question is, how do I get him to choose and be with me only?Pls help...
2006-12-27 19:51:16 · 13 answers · asked by lysaziz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't put up with the crap; if you do, he won't make a choice. There is the possibility that he will chose her over you but if he does, at least you know he is not worth holding on to. Good luck!
2006-12-27 19:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has another woman and you want him to pick you? Why? He is a player. Move on. I am no Dr Phil. But if a guy did that I would of cried for about 5 min if that then I would of been madder than an old wet hen. Don't beg. What is there to beg for, a few minutes of his time? No. Just cut your losses and move on. There is a lot of men out there that are better and don't play games. He wants he cake and eat it too.
2006-12-27 20:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by misstigeress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough question. After all this you still want to be with a guy who was dishonest to you and still does not commit? Do you think he will change? Does he have any reason to change if he has two women (and maybe more)? You have to decide what you can put up with and if that is your choice or if you are being/feeling desperate/mad/jealous.
It feels like crap now, but you're going to have to think that maybe it's not you, it's him. He's probably not worth it, but after 4 years - hell sometimes after 40 years - it's hard to see that when it hurts.
IMHO you should cut your losses, if he can cheat on you after 3 years, he'll cheat after 5, 10, 20...
2006-12-27 19:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone once a cheater always a cheater. He sounds like the kind of guy on lifetime, where he has two familys in seperate states and has to fly back in forth to keep up with the lies. Is this what you want?
2006-12-27 19:55:24 · answer #4 · answered by betty_htch 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way Kick him to the curb, hes been cheating on you for a year, he isnt even worth it, dont let him eat his cake & icing too. If you let him do this, he will always run back to you, because you let him cheat the first time. Its time to move on, dont waste anymore time with him. you deserve better!
2006-12-27 19:57:26 · answer #5 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to choose him? He has cheated on you. Once a cheater always a cheater. good luck
2006-12-27 22:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him on his balls and ask him to jump down the sea. He will choose you subsequently, trust me, as this man is damn f*ucking cheap!
2006-12-28 18:29:36 · answer #7 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a better question is how does he get you to choose him.
2006-12-27 19:53:28 · answer #8 · answered by Bliss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what happen before making any more.How's your sex life.Happy or not?
2006-12-29 13:30:30 · answer #9 · answered by gen2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO, you still want him? You are psycho!
2006-12-27 19:57:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋