I feel like our sex life has been exchanged for him looking at porn when i'm not in the room. Is this common during pregnancy????? is it a sign there are other things wrong with the relationship? Porn has never bothered me before- so why does it bother me so much right now???????? Is it just because i'm 34 weeks and I feel unattractive? Or is it because I "catch" him looking at porn all the time and so i feel unattractive because we virtually have no sex life anymore????
2006-12-27 19:50:07 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Porn has nothing to do whether you are attractive or not. I enjoy porn a lot and my wife does not. She never has any problem with this neither she is less attractive to me than what was she 20 years back.
2006-12-27 19:58:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 4⤋
Are you sure you were OK with it before? Ask him outright if that's the problem. Just because you feel unattractive doesn't mean he finds you unattractive. Many men feel that the sight of their wife carrying their child is very attractive. You might try initiating sex with him to see if he's interested. You should also reassure him that sex while pregnant is OK (unless your doctor has told you otherwise). Some men are worried about injuring the child. Talk to your husband for the best answer.
2006-12-28 03:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by billb_tx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, perhaps it's a mix of both your hormones and his overdoing on porn watching. I can imagine that you feel unnatractive. I am only 6 weeks pregnant and I already have that uneasyness about my body. You should try speaking to him about your feelings and by all means, work up a sex life!!!! You are sexy when you are pregnant!! Now, do you have no sex life because you cannot have sex right now as per doctors orders? Or is he enjoying himself too much with porn? Thats another thing to consider.
2006-12-28 03:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by katiesmommy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't put the blame on you. You think it's because you're unattractive, you're not!. You're still the woman who is supposed to be in love with.
Your thought process is "what's wrong with me?" Let me tell you something, there's nothing wrong with you. It's something wrong with him and that something is that he doesn't care how you feel.
This obviously bothers you and if he cares about you he shouldn't do it anymore. Period. What's more important for him? You or porn?
2006-12-28 04:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a complicated question. You may be feeling really insecure with your body all out of shape and stuff. You may need a lot more personal attention because of it. Maybe you need to let him catch you looking at some too. Just a thought. Men are 100% totally visual and women are just about 0 on the visual scale. That may be a clue. The important thing is does he look at it with the intention of messing around? How was sex before PG?
It IS complicated.
2006-12-28 03:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by Tony T 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It is probably a little bit of everything. If it makes you uncomfortable, he should stop. He should be understanding of the condition you are in. I know our sex life dropped dramatically in the later stages of pregnancy (he was weirded out about the baby being "down there" LOL). But, we found other ways to be together without having to have sex. Talk to him about it. If he is just weirded out about the baby, then mess around other ways. You know what I mean *wink-wink*!
I hope you can work it out. Afterall, after the baby gets here, it will be at least 6 weeks before you can start messing around again. Good luck.
2006-12-28 03:54:47 · answer #6 · answered by bashnick 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion Porn is overrated it is used for only 1 thing that ninety percent of people do & the other 10% lie about so check him.
2006-12-28 04:02:14 · answer #7 · answered by sydney 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps it is a combination of everything you mentioned. Perhaps it is something that has nothing to do with you per se, meaning nothing that you can control personally. Have you spoken to him about it? If not the best place to start would be to bring it up to him.
2006-12-28 03:53:34 · answer #8 · answered by sonofwampa 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it should be that way at the time of conceiving. better always touch the feelings of your husband when you need sex. during your sleleping together and your husband will easily got asleep touch h is organ and whisper to him that you need it
2006-12-28 03:59:36 · answer #9 · answered by Jesus M 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
nah hes horny.. just come on to him as usual and he will really get it on.. pregnant women are the bomb
2006-12-28 03:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋