someone asked do my children know. Well, the oldest doesn't know. I plan on telling her the truth the best way I can. I won't lie to her. the other is too young to understand , but once she is old enough i will tell her the truth. all my friends and family know, even my husband. I don't like lying. I rather just get it over with. Hopefully my children will see that no, mommy is not perfect, but she is honest, and maybe by me being truthful about this will make them feel comfortable and open to talk to me about their problems. I don't want to appear to be perfect to my children. I want them to see me for who i am. That way they can learn from my mistakes. and feel comfortable enough to talk to me about anything. hopefully. I plan on putting us (me and the oldest child) in counseling anyway. It couldn't hurt
2006-12-27 19:12:54 · 9 answers · asked by ms_lique 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you got it all figured out.
Yes it's complicaed and you've no doubd caused pain to your family, but what we are forgetting is that there's a new miracle on the way. Focus on that and yes, be homest with your children. I think none are too young to understand society. If you don't explain it to the young one, they will find their own explanation.
Don't let anyone elses opinions of you bring you down. YOu are doing a great job with your children so far, right?
Keep it going.
2006-12-27 19:18:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello =)
I've been following this thread of questions to some degree.
It seems like you have your act together, and I admire you for that. I think you'll do just fine.
My only concern is why you would want to take your oldest daughter into counseling....are you having behavioural issues with her that are not just natural reactions to changes in her lifestyle??
As a rule, I would not advise counseling for children, unless as a last resort, because, yes, it can hurt.....just another case of an adult making assumptions and judgments about her, which may or may not be valid. Just kinda tuck that away in the back of your mind for now. You have enough to worry about.
Good luck with everything, but you won't need it, you'll be fine.
Namaste, and Happy New Year,
--Tom
2006-12-27 19:19:36 · answer #2 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lying non-s lut is better then a truth telling s lut. Reported???
2006-12-27 19:27:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that you're doing the right thing by telling your kids the truth and it takes lots of courage
2006-12-27 19:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by christina23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least you are acknowledging your mistakes, good for you.
And counseling is a great idea.
2006-12-27 20:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth doesn't hurt... They will respect you for it in the future.
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2006-12-27 19:27:12 · answer #6 · answered by Nikki 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will appreciate you for who you are. As long as you do right by them (raise them right as you, your husband, and almighty God sees fit, not what society dictates to you), they will be there for you.
2006-12-27 19:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by jmbarcus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Didnt see a question here... but hope you feel better now that you have purged your guilt
2006-12-27 19:15:53 · answer #8 · answered by eastcoastraven 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
so wt do u wanna do now
2006-12-27 19:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by coolguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋