1st impressions? Your opninons!?

Question

Alright so my friend brought over her friend and I don't know her that was my 1st time meeting her and she just rubbed me the wrong way, not that shes a bad person but an annoying one. So The next time my friend and I hung out that same person I met before called and asked if she could hang out as well and my friend asked me if it was ok to invite her and I said no because she was annoying. Then they said I wasn't being fair and that it's not always about me. So we compromised and I gave into giving her another chance and the 2nd time around she wasn't so bad and I actually had fun with all of them!! So if this happens again with someone else, should I go based on 1st impression or just keep giving them a chance til they actually do something I don't approve of and then not hang out? I mean I learned something that my friend's friend isnt so bad so I can tolerate her but it doesn't take long for me to get annoyed. So what do you guys do, when you 1st meet someone's friend or something

and something about them you didn't like or found annoying??

Your welcome BD Baby and Vinly your right..good point!

Sorry KD not bd

Answer 1

I think in some cases first impressions are big, but in other ones- such as your example- they're not so much.

The first impression seals in your mind what you think of that person. Say you meet a girl who's really loud and wild at a party. Well, next day at school she could be the quiet little book worm in the corner, and you'd be completely surprised because you're expecting this party girl! First impressions do leave an impression.

But, that impression isn't perminant. Take for example, the annoying friend of a friend you mentioned. The first time you met her she really annoyed you, but the second time wasn't so bad. Gradually, as you spend more time with her, I'll bet anything that you'll begin to find her less and less annoying.

So first impressions are important if you're only going to know a person for a short period of time- job interviews, auditions, court appearances, etc etc. But they're not so important in the long run- some of your worst enemies can become your best friends if you spend enough time with them, and vice versa!

Answer 2

I've met people that i havent liked on the first meeting and then discovered after a few more meets that they weren't what I first thought. It's a good idea to give someone a second chance, because one day you may need one.

Answer 3

nicely sure. and definitely your effect of them will then replace through the years because you're going to make stronger to hate or love that man or woman no be counted what you first imagine of them. yet there is something that conflicts what i imagine though. ok so say that you meet someone and develop into friends with that man or woman and also you adult men are really close (do not forget that you've under no circumstances idea or needed to be more desirable than friends with this man or woman because you basically imagine that "it would want to under no circumstances happen" or your rule is you "do not date your individuals"). Then right away that man or woman starts to regulate their visual attraction as like they commence to drop extra pounds, placed on more desirable outfits, and basically on your opinion looks so a lot more desirable. then you truly finally end up more desirable desirable to this man or woman who you've standard for see you later (and likely i believe this to have happen previously because people are instinctively shallow). So even if human beings opt for to believe this or not, looks are more desirable major than what a number of those "anti-shallow" human beings would opt for to be counted on. and that i'm not declaring that judging human beings is fantastic, yet i'm basically declaring how that's because I actually have also experienced being judged badly through others.

Answer 4

You might want to think about the fact that there are a lot of couples (happily married couples) who couldn't stand each other the first time they met. You could be throwing away the love of your life if you don't change your feelings about first impressions.

Answer 5

Have to say personally for me going with my gut has always come out right in the end even with a first impression

Answer 6

i think that the 1st impression usually is everything because if she was annoying when you first met her and she knew that's what you said she was probably putting on an act so if you hang out with them again and she gets more comfortable around you i guarantee that annoying characteristics will come out again.

Answer 7

well i like to think that im an open minded person but i would probably do the same thing u did. i feel guilty because i often judge a book based on its cover -so i guess this is a lesson to both of us- maybe we should both learn to give people chances and get to know them before running away - thanks for making me think!

Answer 8

First impressions are usually best. I've found that when I go against my natural instinct, I usually find myself being proven right over time. Go with your gut!

I usually try to give them an opportunity, but when I feel uneasy - I keep my distance...

Answer 9

I give them another chance. and Usually I end up liking them and then I feel like a douche for having made a big deal about them.

Answer 10

1st impressions are all about appearance