What do you do if your parent catches you having sex?

Question

Ok here is the story,
My gilfriend and I went to see a movie and we went back to my house and we started fooling around, one thing led to another and we ended up having sex. After like 40 minutes or so my mother knocked on the door, I jump to the door and close it and lock it, I get dressed and open the door a crack. She wonders what is going onand I claim that we were just watching a movie and she fell asleep and I didn't want the TV to wake her up, she said that we would talk about it later on and thats how it was left. I really don't know how to deal with this situation (hense why I am reaching out to whoever may have advice). I know about the safe sex aspect and we were, I had a condom and she is on birth control just in case.
If anyone out there has any advice on how this situation may unfold for me and what I should do than please tell me.
thanks

I am 19 and my gf is 20 so we are not that young

Answer 1

I agree with the guy above me. Teenagers have gf or bf but to have sex, it is a thing that parents are worried about.
1. She might talk about the dangers about doing this like the diseases and such
2. Might say that you are a bit too young to do that ...but this depends on your age.
3. discuss about the responsability hat you have to take if she goes pregnant or something and to finish school before you get any children, etc
There are different scenarios of what she could tell you. But one thing, it is a natural act that all humans do. It is not a crime that you have committed. Soo, you should tell her if she asksyou what you did back then. What she wants is to guide you throughtout your life and give you advices. Tell her the truth and things will be ok.

Answer 2

yeah..I was in a tht same situation. I was 16..I think the worst that happened was I was grounded, I couldnt see my BF for a very long time, we had a "talk" ...

Of course..I am sure that depends on your age also..

Then again times have changed.. that back in 87-88. the tiimes dictate how parents react...

I know if I caught my teen son..I would let my husband handle it..of course we would discuss what the consequeces should be..

as a parent of 2 teens now...I want to let you know your parents will not hate you..they love you..I hope you understand the dangers in unprotected sex and that pregancy can happen also. That you should be responsible. I would also expect that your parents will tell you that it was a disrespectful action.

My suggestion is maybe you should start the converstation with your parents, be truthful and tell them what was really going on in there..I bet you they will feel better about your honesty and that will open the door to your parents being able to tell you the right things to do..what mistakes not to make...

Teens always think they know it all...

I had gotten pregnant 3-4 months after graduation in 91..I had to wait to go to college I had to work hard. I love my children very, very much..but it was very hard..thought I would let you know

Answer 3

Whoa busted. You already said you were watching a movie and she fell asleep, thats your story and you should stick to it man. You're an adult so is she, so it's not your parents business, you might be an adult but you live in the parents house still so you have to go by their rules but if they let you have your girlfriend in your room then your mom isn't that naive, she knows in the back of her mind you guys might be smashin. Just deny deny deny, and if you feel like you're about to break out with the truth, say okay we were making out and that's all! then go from there. DENY IT MAN!

Answer 4

Obviously a lot will depend on how old you and your girlfriend are, you don't say that in your post so it's hard to comment. One thing's for sure though: the fact that you're lying about the incident makes me guess that you are very young - too young in fact to know how to handle your sexuality responsibly. I would suggest honesty and nothing but honesty when the dreaded talk with your mother comes around.

Answer 5

Just be honest with your mum. Be responsible and draw up a contract with your mum about certain things.As it is your mums house abide by what she says. I am a mother but i dont have a son. If Idid then Iwould expect him to behave in a responsible manner even though I comdone sex before marriage. How ever you cant run your childrens lives. Who knows?She may just want to give you a pep talk.

Answer 6

Well if you are old enough to do it then you should be old enough to own up to it.
Go tell the truth and if as you say you were using protection that is probably all she will want to know.
She will want to be sure you are being safe and not just using the girl for sex either.

Answer 7

Who knows your mom may not bring it up. If she does hate to say this but the best bet is to face it like a man. Take responsiblity. If you really respected your mom, your g/f, or yourself, you wouldn't of let it go that far in your parents home.