I am going through a horrible divorce and custody battle right now. I have three kids 2,3, and 8. My soon to be ex pays about $50.00 a month just to avoid going to jail and me and my kids are living in 1 room at my moms house. They also have no insurance. The support is being enforced but he still refuses to pay. I was working full time but had to leave because i could no longer afford daycare when he stopped paying support. Does anyone have any suggestions? I have no college degree and I dont know how I could go to school.
2006-12-27 18:34:09 · 10 answers · asked by Cindy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Find out how you can get a student loan. Getting an education is the one sure way to get your feet on the ground and to take care of you and your children.
Find out what you can get in terms of state funded insurance for your kids, and use that temporarily, unless dad has insurance through his job. The court can order that he keep their coverage current. The state might also offer you daycare options, which will allow you to go to school during the day.
Keep your head up! You can and will make it through this tough time!
2006-12-27 18:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Buttercup - VP Bamma Fan Club 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you leave a full-time job? You said you live at your mothers, she couldn't watch them for you so you could keep your job? As far as insurance...If you are getting support, he is also supposed to carry the insurance on the kids. Check with your lawyer. If you really need help that bad, go to the state for help...they will give you insurance, food stamps and supplemental daycare. Some places may even help you get a place to live so you arent squished into 1 room anymore. I wish you all the luck.
2006-12-27 18:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by redy2screm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry about your battle. I too am going through the same
horrific divorce. My ex in law enforcement is walking and not
paying his fair share of support for our four children. I too would suggest you go back to school and apply for grants and educational loans. Nursing is good because you have job security. Check with your community college to start. Keep your head up high and know your happiness is coming. God has a
plan for all of us.
2006-12-27 18:49:23 · answer #3 · answered by Cutie1524 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what a mess, I really feel for you and your kids. Some places you can contact health and human service or something by a simular name. They will get you going on welfare, plus get you on track with other agencies. Sometimes you have to be living alone to get the help. If you can show you pay rent to your Mom sometimes they will help you as if you were on your own. Get a student grant, with no income you should be able to find one. If you live in the U.S. medicaid will help with health insurance. I have been through this stuff myself, and my step daughter has too. Good luck.
2006-12-27 18:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by whatshisface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you stop letting the children's father off the hook and give him shared custody where he has to take care of the children 50% of the time. That will free up time for you to get your act together and make him not so care free and fancy free. By the way you are a divorced mom...not a single mom. A single mom is one that has children with no legal father.
2006-12-27 18:40:03 · answer #5 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a single parent that works 2 full time jobs without childsupport. Some women get something called 4c's that will help pay for daycare. you might want to check it out. Community Coordinated Childcare.
2006-12-27 18:56:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear =)
There are social services that would help you with things like medical care for your children, and daycare services so you can work. In some states they will virtually bend over backwards to keep you off of "cash assistance"...
Once you get yourself some sort of job that is decent, they may reduce your benefits, but likely, the healthcare coverage for your children will remain in place.
Go talk to someone at whatever your social services office is called. In Pennsylvania it's the department of health and human welfare, but has a different name in each state. Most states will attempt to sue your ex for some of the money they spend on you, and that's fine, let them deal with it, because in truth, he owes it.
Namaste, and Happy New Year,
--Tom
2006-12-27 18:43:00 · answer #7 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you not have single mum's pension ?? I'm from Australia and our single mum's get a pension. It is probably not really enough, you also need child support especially if you have a morgage or rent and stuff but it certainly helps. Go to your social security and see what benefits you are entitled to. Anything will help l guess. Good luck as l'm sure it isn't easy for you.
2006-12-27 18:58:19 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Apply for financial aid for school, go to the local welfare office, tell them about your ex-husband not paying child support and the children are in need of medicial and you are in need of childcare expenses for school and work and they will help provide that for you. It worked for me in the past.
The welfare office will go after this man for child support (he will be arrested,eventually) because the state will want him to pay back all the money they provided for the children. and you will get your child support garnished from his taxes and his paycheck.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 20:19:23 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different places allow different solutions! Sorry I can't help you! I do not know where you are!
2006-12-27 18:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Silver Surfer 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋