I am constantly being harrased by my ex husband's new wife -need to know what to do?

Question

I have a 13 year old daughter who is caught in the middle. I've tried everything to be civil, but nothing is working. Need some real advice. This is a serious matter, so please be considerate with your comments. Thanks

Answer 1

I want to give you a serious answer but I need to know how is she harrassing you. And remember she will always feel threatened because you were first and you and you ex have a child together. Keep being civil and try to deal with her as little as possible

Answer 2

Is your ex aware of this problem and is there a chance that he is playing the two of you against each other? If by being harassed you mean her talking about you to your daughter behind your back, thus putting her in the middle, have a talk with your daughter and explain that this happens often in divorce cases, especially if he is paying child support since she would resent that I am sure.
you may want to modify the visitation agreement to prevent having contact with her as well if need be.
If you husband is aware of this and allowing it or even encouraging it, then some modification to the visitation should be made so that you don't have to endure that. If she comes to your home for reasons other than visitation purposes, get a restraining order. I have tried to give good answers based upon what you said so one more thing I could add would just to tell you to document when she haresses you and in what manner in case you do have to go to court to stop her.

Answer 3

Wow.. Divorce isn't easy...and definatly not an easy thing to go through.
It's sad when a child has to see the ugliness of it all also. However your doing the right thing by being civil. That takes a lot out of a person. And it teaches your daughter that your being the better person. While the new wife is showing her ignorance.

Nevertheless it all depends on how she is harrassing you? Start by keeping a diary of the event's of harrassments, or a friend or family around for a witness. Eventually it may require the police, restraining orders, court proceeding's, supervised visitations, etc.

Until you all work out a peaceful way to deal with the situation.

I wish you and your daughter the best of luck! It's not easy!!

Answer 4

Depending on how serious it is, I would talk to the police and see what they suggest....that is, if it is that serious. I would also talk to the EX and make sure that he knows what she is doing to you, because he may not know. Also make sure that you are keeping a paper trail on her. What ever she does, write it down. If she is sending you e-mails, then keep them and print them out. If she is writing notes, keep all of them. When she calls you on a cell, keep the bill and highlight her number. Keep track of everything. If it gets really nasty, you might just have to cut all ties with them unfortunately. Your daughter should not be in the middle at all. This is none of her business and it is hard enough being a teenager....let alone dealing with this BS. She has enough stress with school and should not have unnecessary stress added to it. Good Luck with your situation and I hope this helps you out!!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Ask your ex to meet with you to discuss a problem that has come up with your daughter without telling him what it is about. Tell him not to bring his new wife as this is between the two of you. Meet at a fast food place; somewhere neutral & in public. Try not to get emotional when you discuss the problem & its effect upon your daughter. Ask him if he has any ideas about what can be done. Suggest he speak with his new wife & make her understand that it is necessary for him & you to maintain a good relationship for the sake of your daughter & that she needs to help, not hinder. Making him part of the solution instead of part of the problem might make him more willing to listen & take constructive action.

Answer 7

Uh oh, sorry to hear that.

This sounds really harsh but...........you may need to discontinue speaking with the ex, just so you do not have to deal with the new wife and since you have a daughter with your ex, that may require her not being able to see or speak to Daddy anymore, if the harrassment continues.

Answer 8

I would start documenting what she is saying/doing toward you. That way you have some evidence to show to the police that she is on your case. It is unfortunate that your daughter is in the middle, but in order for anyting to be solved I suggest talking to your ex husband about the issue, maybe he is making the situation worse some how.

Answer 9

I have been married for 11 years. I had, in the past the opposite situation where the boilogical mother was very harrassing, would lie in court. take my husband to court for no apparent reason, etc.. you name it I have been though it...

It got to the point where the woman would badmouth my husband and I to his daughter. When thier daughter was over her house for visitation her mother would get on her case if she talked to me over the phone..

dont let it get to you...and you know what..she will stop eventually. As long as she knows it does something to you mentally she will do it..

IF you are pressed to do something about it..talk to your ex and see what he can do. If not bring it up in court. The judge may not do anything, but if you continue to bring it up in every court hearing then the judge will do something..admonish your ex for not taking care of the situation..

Answer 10

she is jealous of u, and is insecure in her relationship with him, need to distance yourself from her, any way u can. tell your ex what is going on here, maybe your daughter should not go over there as much. she will continue what she is doing, as there is no one really stopping her, she thinks way to highly of herself, and should not have anything to do with your daughter, she is using your daughter to get back at u. distance and ignoring her will help, when u react to an illogical situation, and make it bigger than what it is, u give it fuel to continue. she is just trying to get back at u for something she believes u are taking away from her marriage.