how did you rid yourself of self-hatred?

Question

please, no cliche answers.

Answer 1

See yourself the way God sees you. If you don't believe in God, maybe this is a good time to start. God sees you with all your flaws and loves you like a father loves his child. Like a good father loves his child. (I know there are many lousy fathers out there in this world who were more sperm donors than anything else. That's not the kind of father I'm talking about.) I can remember one time in my life I didn't like myself very much. I was down on myself, and I felt a voice inside me saying, "I love you that way." I believe it was God. Ask God to tell you that he loves you too. Then if God loves you, you should love yourself too.

Answer 2

Every night before you go to bed, write down three things in a journal that you did during the day that were positive or that you enjoyed.
Example:
1.) I let a car into my lane of traffic on the way to work
2.) I had a really great conversation with my best friend
3.) I did 30 minutes of exercise

No matter what, you should be able to find 3 things.

Next, write down 3 things that are bugging you about yourself that you did during the day.
Example:
1.) I accidently said something that a person took as a mean comment but I totally didn't mean it like that. I'm dumb for not realizing it was mean.
2.) I yelled at my son when I was really angry about work.
3.) I spent too much money on that shirt. I waste money.

Take the list of 3 bad things and put a positive spin on them.

Example:
1.) I'm going to ask that person tommorrow if he/she was offended by that comment I made. I will explain that I did not mean it like it sounded.
2.) I'm going to give my son a huge hug when I get home from work tomorrow.
3.) I'm going to take really good care of that shirt I bought for myself and I'm going to wear it a lot. Or, I'm going to take it back tommorrow and buy myself a cheaper shirt.

And lastly, readress you three positive things about yourself and go ahead and tell yourself how those things make you a good person.

1.) I'm a patient person (because I let that car in while on my way to work)
2.) I'm a friendly and interesting person (because of the good conversation with my friend)
3.) I take good care of myself (because I did 30 minutes of exercise).

Keep the journal and keep writing in it! It will help you come up with plans of action to decrease negativity about the self and also help you see the positive attributes that you have!!!

Answer 3

Stand up in fron to mirror and look into to it. SAy to yourself that you are an important individual and you love you. You may have some bad things in you but you will try to improve yourself and make a better person out of you so that you can wake up every morning and smile at yourself proudly in the mirror. Do something good to others, it helps alot.

Answer 4

Either accept what is bothering you as part of your self, or work to get rid of whatever it is that makes you hate yourself. If it is something innate and naturally part of you, accept it and move on. Change how you think about it and you will become stronger for it. It might not be easy, but is thoroughly satisfying.

Answer 5

Start thinking positive and doing good things. Pass out smiles to people even you don't want to and say hello even if it hurts. Open a door for a person you see struggling trying if you have to walk back several steps to do and help and elderly person with their grocery cart.
Be a good person no matter what--you get what you give.

Answer 6

get rid of your bad things, if any, by self help

Answer 7

See a therapist.

Answer 8

hmm if you let me know if u find out because i have hit bottom with it

Answer 9

You learn to Love the a**hole that you are.

Answer 10

pray