if you're becoming a lesbian/bi...?

Question

is it hard to get used to eating a u kno what? i mean i want to but i am kinda intimidated or grossed out slightly. just wondering.

Answer 1

I have been very interested in the concept of "becoming" a lesbian or bisexual female. I can't really believe that I would "choose" that life for myself. I am attracted to some females and to some males. I would not choose that life for myself because of the emotional "fallout" for me and for my family.

I do know that when I am excited about being with someone, any feelings I have had about being "grossed out" have been squashed by my sense of excitement.

Answer 2

First off, no one Becomes lesbian or bi. Either you are or your aren't.

Secondly, if you're a woman, what's so gross about it? You've got one too!

Thirdly, not all lesbians and bi women are into oral sex. It's a personal choice there.

But I gotta tell ya, if you're into recieving, you better be willing to return the favor!

Answer 3

If you're grossed out by the thought of performing cunnilingus, I'd have to wonder if you are lesbian or bisexual. You might still be, but it's hard to find a lesbian or bisexual woman who doesn't love vaginas, you know? Now, it's perfectly normal to be intimidated by it, for whatever reason- fear of not being able to please her, etcetera. So it can be hard to get used to doing it, but if you are sexually attracted and care for the woman you are doing it to, your desire to please her and your arousal from her body should make it an intense, wonderful experience. Most lesbian and bisexual women don't see it as a difficult thing to get through, but a privilege and awesome thing to do that turns them on.

And, like someone else said, you don't consciously choose to 'become' lesbian or bisexual- you can merely discover what desires you have and start learning about them.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You can't become a lesbian or a bi. You are born that way! Also, not all us bi girls give other girls oral, because not all bi girls end up dating or being with other girls. We're just open to the possibility. Not all lesbians give oral, either. I know that sounds odd, but there are many other ways besides oral that can give a woman pleasure (such as fingering, fisting, anal sex, toys, etc.)

Answer 5

First of all nobody becomes lesbian, gay, bi or str8 that is on sexual orientation and everybody is born with that it just takes some people longer to come to terms with their ture sexual orientation then it does others. For instance my youngest brother and I are both gay he came to terms with his sexual orientation really early in life and was 'out' by age 13. Me on the other hand did not come to terms with my true sexual orientation until my late 20's and lived a life pretending to be a str8 man before coming 'out', I went so far as to even marrying a woman - that does not mean I was str8 tho, I was never str8 I just couldn't deal with the fact in my own life that I was gay so I pretended to be somebody, something I was not.
Also it does not matter if you are lesbian, gay, bi or str8 all people have their own likes and dislike when it comes to sexual activities. Lots of gay guys I meet don't like rimming and when I first came 'out' I didn't like the idea of it either but now I love it, in fact one of my biggest turn ons is to rim a nice, tight, hot, clean _ _ _ hole. When I was married to a woman not once did she suck my c _ _ k, now I don't know if it was because she did not like to do that or if it was because I never went down on here, as a gay male the thought of that revolted me and still does so I just couldn't do that sexual act. Lots of guys I know won't kiss on the mouth, lots won't take *** in their mouth, lots won't swallow! I am a total TOP so I don't like getting it up the a _ s but I know lots more guys that love getting it. So there are so much diversity with in the likes and dislikes of sexual activities almost as many as there are people who have them.
You might get used to it you might not, just do what you like, just do what comes natural.
Good luck with it whatever happens.
*hugs*
JAC<
in Hamilton, Ontario, Canada

Answer 6

You don't "become" a lesbian or "become" bi. You are what you are. If you are grossed out, don't do it.