i dated by boyfrien for 4 years he was always really nice conservative and caring. i was the one who threw my self at him when we had 3 mos. now that we moved together he keeps repeating for me to stay in shape and wants to go to strip clubs.he has gone like 3 times in this past year. now he says he would like to mess around with his 4th ex girl friend. i tell him might as well have sex because i think he is going to get curious later on and cheat on me. right now i havent let him but he says that for sure he is going to do it. (mess around). he is still thinking about the sex part. i hurt deep inside because i try to stay in shape, i dont think im that boring, and i dont think i that ugly. one thing i have is that i have really low self-esteem. i dont feel good beside any other girl.is it because of what he says?
2006-12-27 18:14:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What an asshole. I mean, sometimes guys want to go to stripclubs just for fun. Heck, I'm taking one of my (straight) female friends to a strip club for her birthday just for kicks and giggles. However, this guy TELLS you he wants to mess around with other girls, and you say YES??? I think not, sister. You say he'd just get curious and cheat later, but WAKE UP! He's curious and cheating now, and you're telling him it's okay, so why would he ever change? He wouldn't.
Let me tell you right now: you do not deserve this. Of course you feel ugly because of the way he treats you/talks to you! This man is bringing you down! Give him a serious talk, and if you aren't the only girl he desires, maybe it's time for you to walk out, because if you've been together this long and he's not ready to commit (but rather is TELLING you that he is going to CHEAT), he's just not worth it. Leave his sorry self, and get your own place, go on a shopping spree, and let yourself know YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-27 18:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by grayhare 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How does ur mind work?? they boy insults you and tells u : U R not enough..and u need someone to tell you to leave him?? I mean do you really think he is going to stop that?? no dear... once he knew u will accept that he will never stop it..Plus, what is the point of staying with someone you love?? IT IS TO MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD...this person made u think: I am not THAT ugly! am sure u are not ugly...and you should try to find a man who makes you feel that you are the most beautiful girl in the world. Pack ur stuff and leave forever..you have already wasted 4 years of ur life..do not waste more...
2006-12-28 02:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by gala-day 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't love you for YOU, what are you doing staying with the pig?
Dump him and find someone who's worth your time. A guy who gets on you about staying in shape while talking about wanting to mess around with his 4th ex-girlfriend (gee, can't imagine WHY this winner has had so many exes) and who basically tells you he's going to cheat on you isn't worth wasting your time on.
You deserve better than that.
2006-12-28 02:21:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesn't want you (no offense) why on earth would he actually TELL you he wants to mess around, at least he is honest, so you know what he wants to do?? He's a freak in my opinion, I am SURE you deserve better then him!
I would kick him to the curb! Like a man like that would even care!
I am SURE you don't want to get married to a man who openly tells you he wants to cheat on you!
P.S It's good to stay in shape and eat healthy, just don't do it for other people to like your body!
2006-12-28 02:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Stinky2u4u 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why you have low self-esteem is a mystery to me. We don't have enough of your personal history to fathom a guess, but esteem issues are usually built over may years by repeated experiences.
I think you have it backwards, your current boyfriend probably did not create your self-esteem issues, but you continue to hold on to this loser because of them. Perhaps it hasn't occurred to you yet, but many women actually get to settle down with men that don't cheat on them at all. And, you can to, as soon as you realize you're worth it...and drop this guy like he deserves.
2006-12-28 02:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by David G 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
he is bringing you down and doesn't appreciate you. We all go through things like this but it is all in your head. you need to leave him alone, I know this is not that easy, but you need to move away move out or something, he is braking your sprits. He needs to grow up talking about having sex with others, he is going to cheat, eventually if he hasn't already and why would you want to be with someone you don't trust. That is such a miserable feeling. I hate how that feels. Change your life leave him, hang out with friends or family, get one of the babies in your family to hang out with that helps me. Focus on something else it will keep your mind focus and off of him. He is suppose to bring you up not down. I dont like reading this because I know how you feel and their is someone else out their for you I promise
2006-12-28 02:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Smile 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems to me it's time to take out the trash. Kick 'im to the curb, honey, and find a man who will love you the way you deserve to be loved.
2006-12-28 04:57:13 · answer #7 · answered by Niki L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be trying to be an a** so you will break up with him, so he won't feel the guilt of being the dumper. Gather your strength and your things and look to move on and out.
2006-12-28 02:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by What, what, what?? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to leave this man, NOW!
Your self-esteem is low because of this man, please leave
Don't you want to be loved? This man doesn't really love you.
Don't you want respect? This man isn't respecting you, he doesn't even care about your feelings.
You do deserve better.
2006-12-28 04:23:34 · answer #9 · answered by LC 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
IF HE LOVES YOU HE WIL NOT NAGG YU ABOUT YOUR SHAPE OR ANTHING ELESE ! AND FOR THE STRIP CLUBS MEN THAT ARE IN LOVE W/ THEIR WOMAN DONT NEED THEM.. AND THEY DONT NEED EX G/FS EITHER STOP PUTTING UP WITH THIS AND ASK HIM WHY HE FILLS THE NEED TO DO THEWE THNGS
2006-12-28 02:20:26 · answer #10 · answered by Msdeb gee 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋