My boyfriend wants me to have his baby. He telling me how we can move in together. It seems good but I;m just scared. I want to have his baby but I just feel lost like ok other then his income what income do I have, becasue I am all about being independant. I dont want a man to give me what I can do for myself. But he wants us to move in together and I can take care of the baby for about a year then work again, but I am unsure. But the only problem now is that I may be pregnant now. Its not a problem but I am not sure what to do.
2006-12-27 17:56:00 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YOU BASICALLY ANSWERED YOUR OWN QUESTION. IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBT WHAT SO EVER. BY NO MEANS SHOULD YOU BE BRINGING A BABY INTO THIS WORLD.
I DON'T KNOW HOW OLD YOU ARE. BUT IF YOU HAVEN'T ESTABLISHED YOURSELF. MEANING, GOTTEN YOURSELF TO WHERE YOU WANT TO BE AS AN INDIVIDUAL. YOU WILL BE DEPENDENT ON YOUR BOY FRIEND FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. JUST HAVING AN OKAY JOB IS OKAY. IF ALL YOU NEED MONEY FOR IS, MAYBE GOING TO A MOVIE, AFFORD GAS TO DRIVE TO THE BEACH ON THE WEEKENDS, PURCHASE THE LATEST PAIR OF JEANS, PAY FOR YOUR CELL PHONE. BUT A BABY!!!!! TAKES "ALL" OF YOUR TIME AND "ALL" OF YOUR INCOME.
SURE, HE SAYS, ALL YOU HAVE TO DO IS TAKE CARE OF THE BABY FOR A YEAR AND THEN GO BACK TO WORK. THAT'S CRAP. IT JUST DOESN'T HAPPEN THAT WAY. ONCE HE GETS THE TASTE OF HOW MUCH OF HIS TIME, MONEY AND EXTRA HOURS OF WORK IS NESSASARY TO SUPPORT YOU AND THIS BABY, MOST LIKELY, AFTER A YEAR, HE WILL EITHER BE GONE, OR YOU END UP PREGNANT AGAIN.
IF YOU'RE SURE THIS BOYFRIEND IS MR. RIGHT, THEN WAITING SHOULDN'T BE A PROBLEM. LIVE TOGETHER FIRST. GET TO KNOW WHAT HE IS LIKE WHEN NO ONE ELSE IS AROUND. FIND OUT IF YOU WILL BE ABLE TO HANDLE TAKING CARE OF A MAN, A HOUSE HOLD, BILLS, INSURANCE, RENT, COOKING AND ALONG WITH ALL OF THAT, YOUR JOB.
IF YOU ARE ALREADY PREGNANT WITH HIS BABY, TALK TO YOUR PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS, OR CHURCH. BUT MOST OF ALL. WILL THIS CHILD BENEFIT? WILL YOU BE ABLE TO GIVE IT WHAT IT NEEDS? THINK BACK AND WEIGH THE FACTS. CAN YOU DO AT LEAST AS MUCH FOR YOUR BABY AS YOUR PARENTS DID FOR YOU? BEST OF LUCK SWEETIE.
2006-12-27 18:37:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First find out if you are already pregnant, if not, get to Planned Parenthood and learn about birth control. If you can avoid it, don't have a child until you have the capabililty to support yourself and your child should the need to do so ever arrive. Too many women get trapped in abusive relationships because they don't have the skills to support themselve and their child.
If you boyfriend is ready to have a child with you, he should be ready to commit to you fully and marry you; if he isn't, then I would certainly question his motives and our future together.
2006-12-28 02:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you to have the baby and yet not get married, he is not committed to the relationship 100% so that the odds are that it would not last. If you are indeed pregnant, don't be so independant that you don't make him pay for child support!!
2006-12-28 02:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out first..if not ask yourself a few questions before you decide;
1: are you Ware you want to be in your life?
2:do you want this man in your life for ever?
3:are you ready to take care of a baby(theres alot to it,they don't stay babies and they are very expencive)
2006-12-28 02:14:54 · answer #4 · answered by chan72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married before having a baby...
2006-12-28 02:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go by your gut dont be pressured into anything your not 100% sure about if he love's you he will respect your decission and wait...Good Luck.
2006-12-28 02:00:57 · answer #6 · answered by photofan25 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to do what you feel is right. If you're having doubts, don't let him (or anybody else) pressure you one way or another.
2006-12-28 02:24:06 · answer #7 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out first if you are or not then go from there your putting more pressure on your self then you need
2006-12-28 02:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by Robin t 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubts at all you should not have his child.
Not yet at least.
2006-12-28 02:48:58 · answer #9 · answered by Emily Strange 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out if you are first before you start worring.....and don't do anything you're not ready for....
2006-12-28 02:04:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋