I have spent 34 years taking care of other people's needs and now, there is no one left to care for anymore. There is no family and no friends around. I have always drawn my happiness and being needed as a high importance in my life from other people. All is quiet now and I don't have anyone around. Its just me. I am depressed because there isn't anyone around anymore to feed me with love or a sense of them needing me. How do I start over and drawn the happiness and peace from within myself and stop being depressed about not being needed by anyone? I feel very alone and lost.
2006-12-27 17:51:09 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
start making new friends,you should have at least a hobby ,that probably you left aside because of your duties whatever they were,take a vacation or a couple of days ,there are so many things that you can do ,but it can be possible that you feel like that ,because you put a 200% of attention at whoever you was taking care ,that you distend even yourself,if that's the case ,you will be back on your feet again ,its a matter of time,you are just 'decompressing'
2006-12-27 18:23:16 · answer #1 · answered by Byzantino 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Me, too. Same story. You just have to have the gumption to re-invent yourself. It's hard work. Get more active. Force yourself to go through the motions, the tiny steps. Start growing something. That really helped me. I still feel alone, but no longer lost. As you know, because you've told ten thousand people this in your life as a caring, giving person, "You never know what's around the next bend." Stop looking back. Start looking forward. You can write your own future. If you just give up, what kind of testament would that be to everything good and honorable that you are?
2006-12-28 02:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to work at a nursing home or a daycare center or a place where there are troubled kids. Even better become a foster parent so you can feel better again. Hope this helps. Good luck!!
I have kind of gone through the same thing both of my kids are out of high school now and I felt kind of lonely and you know the empty nest syndrome so I got a dog. She's great. She is a Bassett hound and I called her Daisy, which is my favorite flower. It makes me feel good inside when she comes up to me and wags her tail and smiles at me.
2006-12-28 02:03:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself to a counsellor for guidance. You are grieving for a lost part of your life and you need assistance to understand this.
From personal experience, I find my peace in natures beauty and in the creation of others (I love to read). I spend as much time as possible (a weekend each month) camping. I also go to church, but I know that that is not for everyone.
I look for beauty around me, see it in a child's smile, or in the slow stride of an old man walking his old dog.
Being happy is hard work. We are so used to dealing with life's stresses that we have forgotten how to smile.
Please seek assistance.
Good luck.
2006-12-28 02:03:07 · answer #4 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are a good soul. Now is the time of change for you & all change is hard & will take time. You should learn something new....yoga & meditation will be v good for you.
Voluntary work is an option so is travel & concentrating on having 'fun' for a change.
Every cloud has a silver lining. Finally it will be upto you to find that silver lining.
Happy 2007 !
2006-12-28 01:59:31 · answer #5 · answered by Praxis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First, try meditation or yoga.
Second, there are countless folks out there who need help with a variety of things. What is it you are best at? Focus that talent and energy on helping others....no need for someone like you, as a help and caregiver, to be depressed.
2006-12-28 01:56:49 · answer #6 · answered by unfinished_adolescent 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Awww. Baby, it's all going to be fine.
I know how you feel, But you'restill needed.
Just listen to your heart for a while.
Love can't be defeated.
2006-12-28 01:55:16 · answer #7 · answered by Soundjata 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋