2006-12-27 17:25:32 · 8 answers · asked by sonia w 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
As soon as possible, set aside quiet uninterrupted family discussion time and let them know. Now as parents we always stress to our children how honesty is the best policy and how we are their best friends and they should not be afraid to tell us anything, what is a better way to show them this than by example. Eventually they will have to find out and the sooner they know, the sooner they began the healing process. Sit down as a family and let them know the situation, let them know that even though you and daddy won't be married, but however you still love each other and especially them very much. Inform them once you have decide who will move out of the home, and what the living arrangements for them will be. Let them know you are still a family and that family's come in all different styles. Let them know you have decided this is best for everyone and you have tried not to reach this point but it's inevitable. Then listen, allow the kids to voice their concerns and awnser their questions and answer honestly without arguing or tarninshing the respect the children have for you or your mate. Never talk bad about your mate to his or her children. Try to find the sunlight at the end of the tunnel, remember God doesn't close a door without opening a window, and be blessed in all you do.
2006-12-27 18:19:53 · answer #1 · answered by uneek_detroit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when i got divorced my kids were to young to know( 11 months and 1 month) but i think that if they were older i would want to tell them way before it started. then it wouldnt be thrown in their face. and take the time to explain what will go on the good before the bad.. but don't beat around the bush the kids these days are just as smart as the adults in most case. another when you do it be strong and ready for the questions of why? when? how? don't change your mind just because of your kids happiness because it is yours you need to worrie about!
good luck and stay strong it will get eaiser!
2006-12-27 17:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Robin t 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you know for sure that you are. Don't confuse your kids and have a plan how you will tell them to minimize any hurt they'll feel.
2006-12-27 17:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately on Christmas morning after you tell them there is no Santa, they were a birth control mishap, you dont love them and they are the reason you drink.
2006-12-27 17:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by pixie_stix34 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After dinner, for a "Big Discussion". Hopefully, they'll choose the least selfish parent.
2006-12-27 17:27:45 · answer #5 · answered by InTROLLigent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when they are dead. sorry, that was mean. but try to work it out so you never have to tell them.
2006-12-27 17:35:29 · answer #6 · answered by jmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now!!!!!!!!!as soon as you feel there's something wrong with the relationship...we are intelligent...we know...all you have to do parents is just to be honest with us...
2006-12-27 17:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by milkee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to work it out so you don't have to tell them
2006-12-27 17:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by beekerexpress 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋