So, I have this singing teacher. She is Russian, about 39, married, has a 17 year old daughter and such. I am Hindu, and am 13. Today, she asked me what I did during my vacation, so I told her about my Christmas. I asked her what she did. She said nothing much because she and her family are Jewish and do not celebrate Christmas. Now I feel differently about her. Until this day, I thought she was Russian Orthodx. I really don't think I'm being anti-semetic, because my parents raised me to be 100% liberal. For some reason, I feel like she is a whole different person. It never crossed my mind that she was Jewish. I've never had anything against Jewish people. So, why do I feel different about her because now I know she is Jewish?
Also, it's not that I do not like her anymore. I just don't feel the same way about her anymore. I don't know if I don't feel the same way about her in a bad way or a good way.
2006-12-27 17:19:37 · 21 answers · asked by Addicted To Abercrombie & Fitch 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are indeed expressing anti-semitic feelings and, unfortunately, this is not uncommon. Based on what you have said, I suggest that you feel that she is a less worthy person because she is practicing Judaism. She is the same person. You are, too. We are all disappointed to find that our liberalism is just a chamira covering our real feelings. It is easy to justify ones opinions by claiming to be either liberal or conservative. It all comes down to each of us having feet of clay and loads of imperfections.
At least, you have realized you have a problem. You are young enough to change. I hope you are able to.
2006-12-27 17:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by Donald W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, honestly I think that you should never feel different about a person because of what they celebrate. I may be wrong but think if you had a strong relatinship with her just let it go and relax. My friend had the same problem with my family. Heres how SHE handled it. First we made plans to sleep over and she really got to know everybody at dinner. So she is Hindu as well, and I am asian she asked my parents about them and really got to know her story she stayed up all night talking to them! So I suggest that you try to ask her about how her break was. Who knows maybe you'll be intrested in her story like my friend was. Well, good luck and I really hope you change your mind about her!
2006-12-27 17:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by emmaboo101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be because you are Christian and that you believe in Christmas and she doesn't. I know exactly what you mean. I have a friend that is Jewish and I just found out recently that he is jewish. It was hard for me to understand that he does not believe in Jesus the way that I do, but he helped me to understand the Jewish religion. I think that it was more of a shock for me knowing that he believes differently than I do. Now that I understand the Jewish religion, it's no big deal to me anymore. I do not look at him an different than any other Christian person. After all, it is their choice to believe in what they want to believe and it is not my place to tell him otherwise.
Good Luck!!
2006-12-27 17:27:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its ok if you feel different about her, its natural.
From being jewish, I have experienced different attitudes people have given me because they ahve found out that im jewish.
For your information, being jewish is being no different than being christian or hindu or anything else. Its a culture, and it doesnt change her personality one bit. I dont think that its necessary for you to see her differently although it is natural.
You will probably get over it and still see her the same way that you did before.
Hope this helped.
2006-12-27 17:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ud [man] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well Hunny Did You Like Her Before You Found Out This Information ? Believe Me She's Still The Same Person.
2006-12-27 17:24:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dark Prince 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you thought you knew a lot about your teacher and are just shocked by the fact that you didn't know she is Jewish. It doesn't mean you are anti-semetic or anything, you just realized a difference is all. You are probably experiencing a feeling of novelty and it will most likely pass... just threw you for a loop for 2.5 seconds, didn't it? :)
2006-12-27 17:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Elysia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know... this Christmas thing is pretty neutral. I maybe mentioned Jesus once or twice. I just get over it and be the friends you were. I am not Jewish but I have a lot of Jewish friends and it makes no difference at all.
2006-12-27 17:24:07 · answer #7 · answered by Harry Merkin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just wasn't expected. In the long run a person's religion or lifestyle does not have much to do with how you see that person. A person is a person and should just be judged on their personality and character traits, not what they believe in.
By the sound of it you were jus surprised and before you know it this won't seem like a big deal at all.
2006-12-27 17:25:26 · answer #8 · answered by Tasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because you found out something about her personal life, doesn't mean that she is actually a different person. It is you that has changed. It sounds like you have some personal issues that you need to work through. Give it some time, your feelings toward her will probably be as they always were, especially after you see that she is as she always has been.
2006-12-27 17:26:06 · answer #9 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you invisioned as her "ideal" life was back home didn't include Judaism. Maybe you had some thoughts associated with Jews you didn't know were there because they never applied to anyone you knew.
Nevertheless, try just moving on and eventually it won't be such a big deal.
2006-12-27 17:22:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mandee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋