I somewhat dated this girl for about 3 months and everything was going great until randomly she broke things off with me. She told me that she didn't like me that way anymore, but just the day before we had been fine. She's acting really strange lately. She told me I didn't do anything to make this happen. Any suggestions on how to renew her love for me?
2006-12-27 17:19:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
actually I'm looking more for suggestions on how to remind her why she loved me....sorry not renew I don't like that word choice.
2006-12-27 17:31:45 · update #1
You probably can't renew her love for you. She probably isn't ready to be in a relationship right now and got scared. It happens all the time. The best thing (I think) is just give her her space and be okay that she doesn't or can't be with you right now. You'll always have a reason to call on holidays, birthdays, etc. Trust me, we all have problems and insecurities and hers probably is affecting her ability to be in a relationship.
If she really doesn't like you that way anymore, then it's not the end of the world. If you truly care for her, then be her friend and let her be who she is. You'd be surprised the cool things you learn about people with no barriers (like relationship stuff) around.
2006-12-27 17:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Shoooott.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I'm going to sound like a broken record here, but here goes....you can't make anyone love you. They either do or they don't.
Now, as far as what happened, maybe someone said something to her that made her upset or self conscious about being with an other girl. Maybe she just realized that she wasn't actually gay and that she was only going to hurt you in the long run if she kept pretending she was. Maybe you were simply used as her "experiment" with lesbianism.
Either way, you really do need to move on.
You know who you are, be happy with it, don't over analyze the situation and move on.
2006-12-28 01:35:55 · answer #2 · answered by DEATH 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but if you say something, you should mean it. I bet she found someone at that time and soon realized that you were better. That is so convenient of her. You are not a toy that she can throw away if she is done with you. Renew you love? I suggest you dump her and move on. I know it is difficult to let go but she is taking advantage of your feelings for her. Where is your self respect? Say NO to her.
2006-12-28 02:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by PAXson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this "renewal" is unlikely to happen without a change in HER heart. There's not really much you can do to force her to love you again.
Sorry. I know that's not what you want to hear.
Nurse the wound for a bit, don't let it fester, and with time it will heal and you will soon find somebody who does love you.
2006-12-28 01:23:56 · answer #4 · answered by Target Acquired 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can either avoid the akward situation and walk away, or you can talk to her and try to get to the bottom of what's really going on. She might have been confused and is going straight now or she could be jumping back in the closet at her parent's request or she could just not be interested in you any longer or one of a million of other reasons.
2006-12-28 14:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what went wrong, maybe nothing. Maybe it is something with her. The thing is you can't make someone love you. So move on. Live your life and eventually you will be over her and have found someone new. If it is meant to be she will come back, but don't miss out on your life by waiting. Good luck
2006-12-28 01:23:23 · answer #6 · answered by micheletmoore 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hum idk! maybe its just not ment to be! god has a plan for your life if its ment to be it will find a way! i hope i help! good luck!
2006-12-28 01:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋