I have been friends with him for over six years. I realized I liked him as more than a friend a couple of years ago. I thought it might be just a crush, but lately I have realized it is not. I think I am ready for him to know, but am unsure of how to proceed. I don't want to come right out and say it. I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I want so much more. What do I do?
2006-12-27 17:18:01 · 6 answers · asked by Heero 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're right to be cautious. I would too. You need to do something about it, though because this friendship isn't satisfying you anymore. What I would do is try to figure out if he liked me romantically. Lots of the old cliche signs are very accurate. Does he flirt? Does he try to protect you? Does he make time for you? Does he get physically close... like stand close to you, etc? Try being extra flirty and see how he takes it. Tell him he looks sexy in his new shirt or something and see how he reacts. If he gets nervous and doesn't talk to you for a few days then maybe he isn't interested. If he responds with something equally flirty (or even after he gets over the surprise initiates something on his own the next time he sees you) then that's a good sign. Sit close to him or like wrestle with him etc. Wear sexy perfume and dress to be noticed (but don't be too over the top). Go out with him alone to the movies and see if he tries to put his arm around you, etc.
Basically if you can gauge how he feels about you then you can start acting more boldly in hopes he makes a move. If he seems uninterested then you won't be embarrassed and you can still keep him as a friend. Good luck =)
2006-12-27 17:26:33 · answer #1 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is always the best policy. Tell him how you feeling and how things have changed for you and what you would hope would come out of this communication. Let him know his friendship is important to you. You might find out he is feeling the same way and will be interesting in changing the relationship the two of you have.
But are you ready to hear he only wants to be friends?
2006-12-27 17:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out for the evening have fun, and when you get a chance to be alone or slow dancing, tell him that I do not want to destory are relationship as friends and you may not feel the way I do, but I am starting to like you more than a friend and I want you to let me know if you are feeling the same way and if not, I will understand I just needed to let you know,(pause) and thank you for listening.
2006-12-27 17:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by MSG 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in simple terms communicate over with him and tell him the way you experience approximately him. And which you have been thinking to going greater into the relationship and wanted to appreciate what he thinks approximately it? At that element he could enable you to recognize what he thinks and feels then take it from there. If he would not then you definately nevertheless be acquaintances and go away it on my own.
2016-10-28 12:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by dembinski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another challange,...chances are he may already know. Body langauge and your eyes have probably already told him and if you two are close he may feel the same way. You have to put it on the table or live with the "what if's". Good luck but honesty is the best way to go.
2006-12-27 17:22:23 · answer #5 · answered by boobear735 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you would like to take it a couple steps farther
2006-12-27 17:20:54 · answer #6 · answered by leapordlover10 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋