I have been married three months and my husband talks to women all the time on the phone and just says they are just friends but they discuss everything that is inappropriate.I have confronted him several times and he said he would not talk to them any more and he still does.I am fed up and I just want to leave now before it gets any worse what should I do?He has cheated in the past with just a friend and that's my main concern.He was so jealous when I had male friends so I cut them off so why can't he do the same if he loves me so much?And on top of that the sex is horrible I have never cheated and we have been together for six years and sex is only five minutes everytime and maybe ten if I get lucky.I have tried everything and I hate sex because of him.My friends say I'm a good woman for not cheating but I want the sex they are always bragging about.Please help!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-27 17:10:17 · 13 answers · asked by Unknown_1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You both have to be willing to work on it. If he doesn't want to visit a councilor and work things out I suggest you see one and discuss how to get out the least painful way. You deserve better and you need to get out before children are involved.
2006-12-27 17:14:22 · answer #1 · answered by sissyfyia 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that counseling is a really good thing that can help - getting him to buy into that would be another story though wouldn't it? Why did a guy like that marry in the first place? You have to put one another first from both perspectives for this to work. If he's cheating on you - that's really serious and you need to give him an ultimatum and separate if you can't get into counseling together. It takes most men some adjustment time after only 3 months of being married but most do better than this.
2006-12-28 01:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry him in the first place if he has already cheated on you? That would have been a red light right then for me.
Nobody can tell you whether to stay or leave, that is something that you need to decide for yourself. But I don't understand why you are still with him. If you feel better leaving do it, stop torturing yourself. It is bad enough he is doing it, for you to do it to yourself is worse.
Why he is talking to other women on the phone is something I cannot understand. Is he not satisfied with the fact that you are there for him? Me, I would dump him. It is going to hurt for a while, but better to hurt because you are getting out of a stinky relationship then to be living in it all the time. Without trust there is no marriage or any kind of a good relationship, and it sounds like you don't trust him. And I see no reason why you would.
2006-12-28 01:22:31 · answer #3 · answered by myninny54 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you and your husband were going around as boyfriend/girlfriend, was he, girl crazy then as he is now? because if he was, then why marry him in the first place? You, also say that you have confronted him about it and he promises not to do it again, but, he keeps on doing it. On top of it he had cheated on you, to make matters worse, with a friend of yours. If he does not want you to talk to men, because he is the jealous type then,what are you waiting for? Leave before you will regret it even more if you do catch him cheating on you again. Leopards do not change their spots, catch my meaning? To make matters worse he is not even good in bed, Get yourself a divorce he is not worthy of you, you need someone that will be by your side that loves you for being you and someone you know won't cheat on you. Good luck and I hope that you will come to your senses, and decide to leave this sorry of a man.
2006-12-28 01:36:26 · answer #4 · answered by a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you think that a habit that went on for 6 years would change because you said "I do". The sex says he does not value you enough and your relationship does not have good enough trust to talk about what you want from it. The talking on the phone thing sounds disrespectful but if you are making too much of it then it could be controlling. The two of you need counseling because it is no fun to sit around miserable.
2006-12-28 01:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by toledogolf 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please leave! it sounds like a very miserable life. Its only been 3 months so the sooner the better and this lie about female friends is bu-- sh--! He is married, do you not give him the conversation he needs, he is not single anymore and needs to let go off all those things. He is with you and should only be talking to you like that. It is OK for you two to have female mutual friends but if you don't know these chicks it is so wrong that he is sitting up on the phone with them. He sounds young and selfish then the sex suck! Leave his unfaithful A_ _!!!!
2006-12-28 02:04:44 · answer #6 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, a lot of people will tell you to stick it out and marriage vows are forever. But to me, your life is forever. You didn't sign up for a lifetime of this. If you've tried to make this work and have exhausted all options, then try a seperation. Get your own place for a while. It will send him a wakeup call and help you to see straight.
2006-12-28 01:17:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sound's like hubbie may be giving what you are looking for to someone else. If you are unhappy and believe that he is cheating get out before cildren are brought into a home with all this conflict going on................you will meet someone who can give you what you need and not need to always talk with other women or be with other women. Life is too short to be unhappy!
2006-12-28 01:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by browneyedonna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs help. He is a sex addict. He has a low self-esteem.
2006-12-28 01:13:24 · answer #9 · answered by Delta Charlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
three months? and he's allready acting like this? take it as a sign to get up and leave.
2006-12-28 01:29:08 · answer #10 · answered by superyduperymommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋