I've been married for over 2months and we have had sex only twice!..My husband was having difficulty in getting an erection - I was understanding at first, but now we dont even try to have sex anymore!..
1.We have talked about this, I even suggested therapy - But doesnt like to go for therapy
2.He is not gay!
3.He is not under stress
4.We love each other and would never want to leave each other.
Is it normal for a man to be like this?...Im really angry and frustrated about this...
Please advice....Thanks
2006-12-27 17:03:37 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1. See a Dr. his erection problem could mean underlying health conditions.
2. Try viagra,
2006-12-27 17:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps ur husband should see a doctor, there could be something physically wrong with him, or if he`s on some sort of medication, that could be the cause. Some men normally have a low sex drive, but in ur condition, that seems a bit too low. He really should see an MD. If everything checks out ok, there is always Viagra. U don`t give his age or say whether he ever was more sexual, so more info is difficult to give. Hope things improve for u both.
2006-12-28 01:14:14 · answer #2 · answered by flamingo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he on any medication?? Some may cause a man to become unarousable. He probably doesn't want to go to therapy because he doesn't want to believe that he has a problem. With therapy he will have to face his problem and then he may feel more inadequate than he already does. It is very difficult for a man to admit that he has a problem in this area. How was sex previously? Is this new? Are you sure there is no stress? Sometimes it goes unnoticed. Maybe he is afraid to tell you, and worse of all, is there a chance he may be cheating?
2006-12-28 01:12:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your husband? if he's having problems, he should talk to a doctor or a therapist... i mean, not only is he neglecting his duties as a husband, but he's missing out on SEX! and if that were me, i'd probably be a little embarrassed, but if you don't do anything about it, there's a chance that it won't just cure itself. that might be what his logic process is.
as for him not being under stress, if i was having difficulty getting an erection, i'd be pretty frakking stressed about it. stress is the only non-health reason that a man might not be able to get an erection unless there's some other problem. diabetes can cause loss of erections. it's important that he gets that checked out. hopefully, it's just stress related.
good luck.
2006-12-28 01:09:35 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.If he isnt concerned about addressing this issue,,he isnt concerned about you.
2.He may very well be gay.
3.Stress would have the oppisite effect,,sex relieves stress.
4.Never?Even if there is never sex? You better rethink this one or you will have a life of misery.
It is NOT normal.
2006-12-28 01:07:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be painful to him or he may not be able to properly penetrate you if you were a virgin and had a difficult hymen to penetrate. He may find the sex act to be too much for him to deal with and need theraphy or counselling.
I hope you all are able to settle this to your mutual satisfaction. If not, you should consider having the marriage annulled.
If you think you are angry and frustrated, he may also be.
2006-12-28 01:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by Donald W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a number of things like high blood pressure, diabetes, etc... He really needs to get to a doctor for the sake of his health and his marriage. One short term solution is to see if his doctor will give him a free sample pack of viagra but erectile dysfunction almost always has another cause so he really needs to get examined!
2006-12-28 01:07:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have him talk to his doctor...Men lose interest in sex for so many different reasons....drop in testosterone, diet, weight, depression...there are so many factors involved. Pressure is not good either. He could have a fear of disappointing you, My best advice is to talk to his doctor. If he doesn't want to go then talk to your doctor and get his/her advice on this.
in the mean time I would suggest other sexual courses...oral sex,masturbation, etc...
2006-12-28 01:10:34 · answer #8 · answered by MARY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound normal to me. I'd suggest a Dr., but most men are worried about what they might find out....i think. Try suggesting some Viagra or anything like that. OR......Jump out at him nude and show him who's boss.
2006-12-28 01:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by GUITARZAN30 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Depression vs Obsession:
Depression I understood.
Obsession my father had to explain a thousand times to me. A man that is dying to go to bed with his beloved may be too anxious, too excited, and too happy. Sometimes it is best to wait it out.
2006-12-28 01:10:55 · answer #10 · answered by Davelina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋