boyfriend help...?

Question

Ive been with this one guy for a year now , he's my first serious bf and i care about him and stuff so does he , but lately i jus dun feel like i love him in the same way i used to i see him more as a friend. I tend to look at other guys and dont treat my bf like i used to . I feel like we grown apart but i know he's very very attached . We been friends for 4 yrs so i dont know how to break it off or if i should even do it . Theres this other guy i like , i dont think i have a chance of getting with him since they're both friends but i feel like since i like this guy and think of getting him its a sign that i dont like my boyfriend as much ,,, i dunno im confused as hell :S should i talk to my bf or should i just keep quiet until i know for sure how i feel ? ever since we past 8 months he been so boring n he a student like me so he doesnt work , i do though and he never has money to go out and do stuff . Im bored of him :S

Answer 1

Since you're not sure of how you feel, consider taking a break instead of breaking up. Because he's very attached, you won't hurt his feelings as much. Tell him that you need to clear your head and you need some time for yourself. Tell him how you feel about always having to pay for dates. Also, tell him that you're bored in the relationship, and explain why. You obviously do have feelings for him if you've stayed together for a whole year. This break will let u re-evaluate this relationship and whether or not it's worth it. Don't base your decisions on whether he's going to be upset or not. If you're truly not happy, do something about it.
hope this helps

Answer 2

I was first going to say that you're settling into the comfort phase of your relationship and it's normal for the sparks to cool a bit, but it does seem like you have outgrown this relationship. Try to assess your feelings more then decide to break it off or not. You're still very young you don't need anything serious now. If you don't think it'll work don't drag it out. I did that with my high school bf and just ended up hurting him. I want a spark and chemistry... if it's gone then dump him. Ask yourself what you truly want.

Answer 3

As time goes on, things tend to fade and sometimes love just isnt enough. Thats something you need to ask yourself. Thats why marriage is such an important decision. Love just isnt enough, and even if you love someone its ok to like someone else, its just a matter of if you act on it or not. You will have feelings for other people in your life, its human nature, you just need to decide if you care about your current bf enough to work through the rough times. Remember, the grass isnt always greener on the other side.

Answer 4

Sometimes that happens when you have been with each other for awhile, you just get bored. That doesn't mean to give up if you still love him. If you don't want anything to do with him, then move on. But the fact that you are confused might mean that you just want something new, but you could just try to change things up and maybe bring back the spark. good luck

Answer 5

It sounds like you are losing intrest fast. It happens in many relationships. You say that you are bored of him maybe you should let him know how you feel and things have to change. At least give him the opportunity to change. If it doesn't work then its time to move on. Good luck.

Answer 6

My question to you is: What will happen when someone better than this other guy come along? the second question is ask yourself why do you get in a relationship with him in the first place? There will always be someone better out here and is up to you to learn to appreciate what you have and I think you need to talk to him before he get hurt.

Answer 7

it will be annoying for you, yet your mom is basically holding you and does not opt for something to happen to you. Age distinction does not be counted she will continuously anticipate a guy is to previous for you because you're her daughter. And sure your mom would have met your father an same time you met yours and your mom probable made some blunders that she basically does not opt for repeated to you. basically hear to her because interior the right if something does happen to you, you'll experience undesirable for not listening and also you would remorseful about the right result.

Answer 8

u sound like a teenager. lol. jokes aside:
lust and love are 2 diffrent things. u can love one and lust another, but true meaningfull relationship is a result of loving and lusting the same person.

Answer 9

Follow your heart!

Answer 10

You are young. He will get over it. You don't have a "contract" so tell him it's time to move-on.