2006-12-27 16:58:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sorry....its very hard I understand. I know this sounds bad..but he'll always be with you because you have the memories of what you had. And going on takes time. It's ok to cry, and feel the pain. It takes time to go on and effort. Take every minute one at a time, realize that this is a hard time and try not to get into anything serious.
Join a group for people who have just lost a spouse for support. Perhaps take interest in a hobby you've had and focus on yourself and getting yourself thru the intial grief. It takes time and effort but it gets better.
2006-12-27 17:01:59 · answer #1 · answered by bluebettalady 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh my God! I'm so sorry to hear that. It will be really hard for the first few years. You have no choice but to "go on". Your husband would not want you to make yourself sick over his death. Remember the good times and keep him in your heart. Talk to him. I know that he is no longer there physically but however he is there in your heart. I talk to my dad all the time and he has been gone for a few years now. (God rest his soul). May the good lord pick you up and carry you through this rough time in your life. I still feel the pain of losing my dad and you will feel the pain for a long time too.
2006-12-28 01:12:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
allow yourself to grieve, and not try to hold in your emotions. you will go Thur a series of emotions, denial, numbness, anger, resentment, and hopefully a time of acceptance when you can let it go. don't try to find shortcuts. the best thing to do is to talk to a close friend and share how you feel. secondly, get connected to a support group of others who are going thru the same things. they will help each other go thru the different stages and it is comforting to know that others are going thru the same thing. plus, the people in charge of the groups are usually people who have been thru what you are going thru. it seems like you will never get passed this, but trust me, you will. your heart needs to heal and the process of grieving is how God designed us to get that healing. Don't seclude yourself or self medicate with alchol or drugs or anything else. many churches and local communities offer support groups that are free. another thought in closing. ask yourself, "what would my husband want me to do with the rest of my life"? staying in the dark and be miserable, or go enjoy life? hope this helps
2006-12-28 01:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a matter of HOW to go on it a matter of you MUST go on . Do you think he would want you to just stop living because he had to stop ? NO he would want you to live on and keep his memory alive in your heart. How do you do this . You must learn to lean on God. If God brings you to it .... Then he will bring you through it .... Pray for comfort , and know that you are not alone your husband is still with you . the next time you are having a problem say his name and say help me with this !!! Its really giviing me problems and you watch how fast that problem is solved and goes away. Their are angles watching over you as well as God and your husband .... Know this and trust in this and put to the test what I have told you and then you will know too!!
2006-12-28 01:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by olestandiingwolf_lone 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
im very sorry for the lost of your husband i think when someone passes away and i know its hard just think about the memories u had with them the best ones, the ones that will make u laugh its more easy if u juss remember the good times.
2006-12-28 01:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Im so sorry! Give yourself some time. Im so sorry to hear about your loss. It is never easy and nothing anyone says can make it better. Hope you feel better.... sorry to say but i would say why dont you try to go to the store with your friends or family spend some time there...... you should feel better.... And after u feel a little better try to find some job somewhere..... Will pray 4 u........ Take care u can also email me at monwwe@yahoo.com
2006-12-28 01:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am so sorry...time will heal. It may not be what you want to hear now but it is always the truth. Research the 5 stages of mourning online. It will give you a better understanding of what you will be going through. The average time for mourning a loss of a loved one is two years. You will heal. Do you have a support system...family, good friends...you may want to seek counceling, it cna be very therapeutic...good luck in your journey to finding peace.
2006-12-28 01:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry to hear that, pray and ask God or who ever you believe in to give you the strength to go on , be strong, it will take time, it's not an over night process but pray you still can love him and go on with you life... Good Luck
2006-12-28 01:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by jakhiamylove 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you go on by taking it one day at a time.loosing a love one is very difficult.your going to experience a lot of different emotions;if you feel like your loosing your mind that normal.find something to do with you time,go out with friends,spend time with your family. pray ask God for strength and peace,in addition i am truly soy for your loss.as time go on your feeling of dread and loneliness will disappear. God bless
2006-12-28 01:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you, my wife passed away. It will all get better and in time hurt less and less. At first it will be tough but you can get thru all of it.
2006-12-28 06:13:59 · answer #10 · answered by nbr660 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋