we have a little girl who is 3
2006-12-27 16:55:42 · 32 answers · asked by mick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
let go she has moved on and may want to stay for you and your daughter but she is not in love if she was she wouldn't disrespect you like that
2006-12-27 17:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by totally confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask her why.... at first she will probably lie and say she didn't do it, but you have to keep trying to find out why. But do not do this with your daughteraround. It's not nice for kids to see their parents arguing. If you still love your girl, it's not a bd thing. Don;t worry about what other people think, you can't just switch off love, no matter how much you are hurt, it's aslow burning out process - believe me!
Truth is, if she has cheated once, she will probably cheat again and the sad thing is, it is an indication of something missing from your relationship - not saying it's a problem with you - but one with the relationship. Don;t stay together for the sake of the little girl - life is too short - you only have one chance - be happy ! However - if you do leave, pnly leave your girlfriend and not your little girl - you don;t have to be living in the same house to be a daddy and a father - if you really love her she will always know and feel it.
hope it all works out, one way or another. Don;t waste your life, you can;t get it back - take it from someone who knows.
2006-12-27 20:42:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh mate i feel for you!
what were her reasons fo cheating if any?
do you love her?
does she say she still loves you?
was it just the once?
mate you need to say to yourself we have a child! that's the 1st thing to consider then you need to ask yourself can you forgive her?
do you want to forgive her?
could you trust her again?
do you want to trust her?
does it tear you up so much that you can't possibly let it go?
mate sometimes even though we love someone there is a point at which you need to defend your heart from this happening again! i.e if you don't trust her full stop then you should leave her!
even though you may not want to it would probably save you from a 2Nd round in the future.
all I'll say is whatever you decide to do keep the child number 1 priority! put all your attention into your little girl! if anyone deserves it it's her!
i personally don't think i could take her back after that but you know her better than me so only you can decide what to do for yourself!
whatever you do mate i hope it works out well for you!
all the best.
2006-12-29 22:06:25 · answer #3 · answered by stevo7281@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think carefully what you do, it is totally up to you what you do. Sometimes staying in a relationship because of the children is no good. My ex husband cheated on me when my children were 4 and 11months old. I left him because I knew that our marriage would not work as I would have what he did at the back of my mind all the time. Now my children are 16 and 19 very happy and I am married again to a wonderful man whom I have had two more kids, and you know what my ex is all on his own. I think once a cheater always a cheater. Good Luck!
2006-12-30 10:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by superstar68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now if you didn't have a child, things would be easier.
The thing is that if a man cheats on his woman there is no sentiment attached.It's just a fling or someone to satisfy his needs. (though I don't justify it).
For a woman it's different. If she cheats on her man, the story that they had is OVER! For a woman to do such a thing is a drastic one. This was not a ploy to get you jealous, because she went beyond that!!
In a relationship trust and honesty are paramount. A relationship can't exist without. You'll be fighting all the time believe me, and is this the environment you want to bring up your child. Take it from me, my mum did the same, initially my parents didn't split and they were fighting all of the time ( I was tiny).
We are all so much happier now, both moved on and got remarried later.
You've got serious issues to consider, get in contact with RELATE, and take it from there.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 17:22:38 · answer #5 · answered by SOL SIREN 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u must ask urself what it is u want to do .
take a time and think about. 6 years are a long time but we all can get out of love , even after 30 years of being together .
what she has done shows that something isnt right in the relationship
have a chat and see what she thinks or feels
best of luck
2006-12-27 19:12:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand what you are going through totally i was with my boyfriend for 6 years and we have a seven month old daughter together and i found out he was seeing someone else 2 months ago i left him. Its the hardest thing but you should make her realise what she has done even if you still want to be with her tell her you need some time to get yourself together and your child like mine no matter what should come first as i am sure you would agree.
If you dont do anything about it now it will happen again thats why i left because i dont want it to happen again, He wants me back now too.
I hope it works out for you and hope you and your child are happy no matter what the outcome.
2006-12-27 17:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, ive kinda been going through the same thing lately, but i have 4 kids with him and found out hes been cheating, we've been together 9 years. I would say to let her go its been my experiance that once a cheater always a cheater. If she really loved you she wouldnt need anyone else, and if you stay isnt that the same as telling your daughter that its okay to cheat on the person your with? Its really up to you but i had to get out i couldnt handle it anymore.
2006-12-27 17:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by lala 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's a very hard question to anyone else to answer but yourself. Of course, most of us would say that u should leave her, but you have a child with her that makes this even more difficult. if she is remorseful, and wants to fix things, and you can find it in your heart to forgive her, then definitely work on the relationship, for your sake and the child's.get counseling, talk about the situation with her, do whatever it takes. otherwise, don't stay in a bad relationship just because of your child. you can have a good relationship with your child without being romantically involved with the mother.in the end, just give it some time and do what's best for your happiness
2006-12-27 17:05:39 · answer #9 · answered by Lana L. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer something is particular in this existence. even nonetheless, i do have self assurance that karma is a bxtch. how could you experience in the adventure that your 3-4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days g/f in simple terms up and went with another guy? what happens if she comes domicile early? for sure you're having 2d concepts, and that i think of you could roll with that. dont cheat. edit: to no longer chew from what replaced into typed above, yet communique is very important to boot. i will't over state this.
2016-10-06 02:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she done this before? If not then it may be that you have both not been paying enough attention to each other which has caused her to drift a little. Sit her down and explain to her that you forgive her this time ( only if you do that is, which you must to make this work for your own sanity ) and find out what she wants but also tell her your needs. If this works then progress from there..........good luck x
2006-12-27 21:40:15 · answer #11 · answered by December 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋