she did something that really hurt me at the time, and tried calling me i guess to apologize, but i was really upset. I havn't spoke to her in a long time...and i think about her a lot...i really miss our friendship...i even dream about her (no, im not a lesbian). I guess it bothers me more than i realize....it's a complicated situation, and i don't know if i should confront her...and if so, what should i say?
2006-12-27 16:46:54 · 5 answers · asked by missamerica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I had a freind like that...she kicked me out of her locker when she found out i was pregnant..it really hurt....i called her once in a blue moon and shed be like what do you want and then id feel stupid and just hang up...so then we started talking again...and were nothing alike anymore this girl had been my best friend forever i mean really my best freind and then it was like i didnt even know her after wed both changed because we'd been away from each other...i still miss her now..we dont get along were not going too..things happenf or a reason and i know that im glad she did touch my life and ill always remember her the way i thought she was but shes not that person anym ore and neither am i ...if you still want to be freinds iwth the girl give it a try but dont be suprised if things have really changed...goodluck to you and your freindship
2006-12-27 16:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should call her and be honest with her. Tell her you miss her and that you are sorry for not telling her sooner why you haven't contacted her. She deserves to know. Maybe she doesn't even know what she did, maybe she never realized what she had done or that it hurt you. If you really considered her a best friend for 11 years, you would have confronted her with this. I don't think you were a very good friend for the past 2 years for not contacting her. So give her a call and just start chatting. Thats what friends are for. I have someone I have been best friends for 45 years and we have never had a fight, we disagreed a few times but we never stopped talking. Good Luck! Just remember, its hard to find a true best friend, so don't throw away 11 years.
2006-12-27 17:52:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want the result to be by going to your former friend. Do you want the friendship to resume? If so, it might be easier to drop her a note or an email and say something that does not assign blame such as, "We used to be such good friends, and I've been thinking of you lately and missing the good times we shared. Can we let bygones be bygones and get together for lunch sometime? I'd love to catch up on what's been going on with you!" If she calls then you can arrange to get together, and it is up to you whether you deal with the original situation or not. Some things are better left unsaid, and you don't want to just have another big upset. If she brings it up and apologizes, accept her apology and go on. If she brings it up and accuses you of whatever, then try to be neutral and change the subject.
If you are just desiring closure, though, then you should probably just drop her a note about how you feel w/o mentioning getting together.
2006-12-27 16:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was your BEST friend. she might have hurt you then but everyone makes mistakes. its a forgive and forget thing. and if it has really been 2 years, you should have forgavian and forgoten a LONG time ago. she most likley feels the same way. if you really want to confront her just tell her the truth. that what happend is over and you still want to be friends. or you can just start talkin to her in school. show her that you don't really care what had happend.
2006-12-27 17:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by bballxbaby147 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i don't know the problem but whatever it was must have been pretty bad. it is always good to forgive friends no matter how bad the situation may be , so i think you should confront her. This will stop your anxiety.
2006-12-27 16:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by ipodlady231 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋