He is about 18 yrs older than I, very formal straight talking serious person most of the time. My friends dislike his competitive nature saying he is "no fun", but he always offers me help or advice and I can see he means well.
If he is a cute young guy, a flirt or surprise kiss is enough and it's just as easy to argue or break up and make up again. But I know I can't do the same with this man and even if we can't be together, I don't want things to be awkward between us afterwards.
I just want to tell him how I feel, whatever happens next is his choice. I need to do this so I can move on and make my other pending decisions (YUP, there is more to make in so little time!).
I am going 30 like most of my friends but we always avoid taking life seriously and now I'm stuck. Someone suggested that I called him pretending I need help, but his schedule is so hectic I don't think he would appreciate it if he gets here just to find out that I don't really need help!
2006-12-27 16:39:00 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Young lady, you haven't told US how you feel. You've told us what your friends think, what you might do with a younger man, but you really haven't identified how YOU FEEL, at least not here. Why don't you start there, think about and put into words in your mind how you really feel, and then simply tell him what that is. Don't do it over the phone. It sounds like he's been a true friend to you. Do you think you owe him your honesty? Be honest, do it in a neutral setting, over coffee perhaps, someplace where it doesn't have to be a long drawn out thing. Do it in a gentle truthful way. You know him best. Be prepared for whatever his reaction is. Perhaps he, too, is looking for a gentle way to be released from anything MORE than you already have.
2006-12-27 16:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by mgs4Real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's older and mature, he would probably appreciate you being straightforward with him. Casually invite him out for lunch or drinks or coffee and then when the time is right, explain your interest in him. My fiancee is 19 years older than me and we've been together 10 years now. We got together because I took the initiative and told him I was interested in him. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 00:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by BROWNITE 4-ever 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just talk with him. If you want to go deeper with your relationship let him know, if you want to keep it at a friendship level tell him that too. Does it really matter what your friends thing about him? Do you know how he feels about you? That might be worth talking to him about too.
2006-12-28 00:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Dorkboy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
show him your titties
2006-12-28 00:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by PoohP 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋