How can I get my wife to be less boring in the bedroom?

Question

My wife is only interested in two positions during sex (missionary and when she is on top). In addition, she only wants to begin in the missionary position. I’ve tried to get her to be more adventurous and try new positions (i.e. doggie style, reverse cowgirl, spooning, etc.), but she says that is makes her feel “cheap”. I was with other women before we were married and they all LOVED switching positions.

Answer 1

good luck- if you can find the cure you are going to be a millionare

Answer 2

I hope you don't tell your wife about the other woman loving to switch positions. That would be one reason for me to say...um let's just stick to the missionary. lmao. Ok, back to the question. Why not become less boring yourself? Try not to rush into things with her. a little kiss, some nibbles, some playfulness. Get her in the mood. Obviously she doesn't want to feel cheap so if you are talking dirty to her then stop. Try to be more sensual in a loving/bonding way. This should help open her up a bit. Get her involved....stop worrying about what you want and do things that she likes. This will help her emerge. also do a search on yahoo for 'yoni massage' and 'tantric sex'. Learn the art of Kama Sutra.

Answer 3

Maybe your wife isn't pleased in bed herself. Men can be really blind to this.
what really caught my eye was that she feels cheap trying anything new. maybe you opened your big fat mouth about a position you tried once and now all she can think about when you move in to a new position is another woman with you.
You two need counciling or you'll end up cheating. I can kind of tell by your wording up there that you're not a very understanding or kind human being. and you need to be when you approach matters like this. you'll never get down to the bottom of this if you keep an attitude like that. don't EVER compare your wife to another lover. do like the thought of paying alimony?

Answer 4

If I were you , telling her about the other women would be a big NO NO!!! Has she ever told you why she might feel "cheap"? Try new things slowly, ask her how she feels about using toys, She might also just not feel comfortable with other positions, meaning maybe it hurts. ?? In any case, don't push her into anything and keep reassuring her that you still think she is sexy, but for gods sake dont tell her about the other women, or you might not be getting any of the goodies for a long time!!! Good luck

Answer 5

First of all don't start off by comparing your wife with the other women you have been with, especially not to her.

And if your wife is boring in the bedroom, that means you are boring also. So your wife is probably just having sex to please you and getting in the positions where she knows you will come the quickest.

I have one way to improve this and it is called FORE PLAY, don't have sex with your wife Make Love to her. Make Love to her whole body, rub her feet, kiss her neck, give her body rubs.

Sex don't have to begin and end with you putting it in and humping until you explode. You can even mind F*ck her, call her on the phone and tell her how you want to make love to her. Also if there are no children in the house, make love on the Living Room Sofa. Bring the sex out of the bedroom and make her more comfortable with doing it. Also if at all possible bring her to an orgasm as often as possible (even if you don't get to come.)

Answer 6

Hmm. Your wife is quite possibly body-conscious and raised to think sex is bad... you need to help her think differently. Pressuring her won't help, of course. Does she read Cosmopolitan magazine? It's a fun way to show her new positions and basically the whole idea behind the magazine is that you can be classy, liberated, and sexy without being cheap. I have no idea why she'd feel this way since you're MARRIED for God's sake, unless she deeply has these negative ideas (sex is dirty) ingrained in her. Perhaps she's body-conscious? I really don't know what to do... she sounds very uptight.... I think you two need a serious chat about this. In no way is married sex dirty, no matter what position. Sheesh...

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Some women are comfortable with just 1 or 2 positions. It's what she's comfortable with. Maybe she's tried those other positions before and isn't comfortable with them.

Answer 9

well it is hard to convense a person to try differt things if you think that it is a bad thing the almost think that it is degrading to them and that you think that what she does now in the bedroom is not good enough which in turn makes her angry. and imbarresment is another view she might think that she will do something wrong so don't force the issue but talk to her calmly about and never in the bed where she will feel trapped and go back into her safety mode.

Answer 10

Be more romantic w/her w/tons of foreplay right after you watch a soft porn together w/those niked peeps doing the nasty every which way.
drink a bit of wine before the adventure as well. Take to a nice fancy resort too.

Answer 11

Make her feel comfortable. Dim the lights and give her lots of encouragment. Tell her how beautiful she is and how her body looks great in other positions. Do not, however, push her. Be gentle yet firm. Above all be loving and patient.