I don't seem to excel at anything I try. I may learn how to do it but I never become great at anything. I sing horrible, can't dance, I'm not that good with people (I work ok with them but I just don't seem to be able to influence them or draw them to me like alot of people can), etc. The few things that I do well are of little or no importance to anyone and aren't a way to make any money. My interests in housework and plants and clothing and travel aren;t going to get me anywhere as I don't excel at anything. I'm not even a very good mother. Is anyone else out there talentless too??
2006-12-27 16:36:14 · 17 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
hey, dont say so.. God as made everyone for a reason and with some abilities... think in other way.. you said you work, right..but thnk of the people you are mentally regarded you cannot work, or some ladies who cannot work as they are not capable or educated... ( see you are GOOD)/ you said you are a mom.. how lucky you are, their are so many ladies you cannot be mom... how you know you are not good mom... try to improve where you lack...see you can do housework, plants and clothing...there are so many things you can do..
2006-12-27 16:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Richa 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just because you can't make money by doing something that you like to do and/or are good at doesn't mean it isn't a talent- I paint, and I'm not that great at it, but I do it for fun & relaxation for myself. It's called a hobby, and it's healthy. And not everyone is going to be a perfect parent- what matters is that you TRY. Don't just give up. You're interested in plants? Try a vegetable or herb garden, so that you can grow your own food! Like clothes? Get creative and make your own shirts with iron-on designs, or pep up an old bag with pins or appliques. And I'm jealous of your abilities- I'm messy beyond comparison, have a deadly black thumb, have terrible taste in clothing, and would rather sit at home than travel anywhere. And think about it- would singing or dancing help make your daily life any easier than it is now? Probably not. And as far as your lack of "influence"- you do have a lot of influence over some people- your children. Not very high up on the social ladder? Don't sweat it- not everyone gets to be the leader, the hive needs lots of productive worker bees to thrive, right? There's no need to get so down on yourself. You are NOT talentless- you just need to recognize the importance of the abilities you do have and utilize them!
2006-12-28 00:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by BabyBear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have talents that you just have not found yet. You say you like housework, then maybe you could be a housekepper for someone. You also like plants, maybe you could work at a garden center or a flower shop. You like clothing maybe youcould work at a store that sells clothes or maybe you could design clothes. You say that you are not a good mother, I guess that we all feel like that way sometimes, but this is one job that will take a lot of work on your part. I think this is the greatest job you can have.
2006-12-28 00:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by karen v 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, most of us have to work at our abilities, we're not born with them.
However, remember that most people do not recognize that they don't excel at anything. So consider your ability of recognize your lack of ability a special talent.
Anyway, you are going to excel. You just have to find the right fit. A costumer with a travelling circus? Manager of a greenhouse? A farmer?
Also, most people consider travelling for work a punishment, so maybe you can find a job that other people don't want.
2006-12-28 00:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jean Talon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can see you're not alone in your feelings.
I don't think I excel at anything. I'm no natural genius and I have to work at everything I do, in order to do it right, and there are a lot of things I never do get right. I'm luckier than you and many others in that I had a good education and parents who expected me to work hard and to use my mind.
I don't think you're naturally stupid, or that you have no skills and can't pick up more. I would hate to see you use your lack of special talents as an excuse to fail for the rest of your life.
(I do think you're awfully prejudiced and would rather resent others than to keep working at making yourself better.)
I do think you're like most of us. You have to work hard to do well at anything. So keep working and don't give up on yourself. Try to exercise your mind more by reading or taking more classes or doing other things that challenge your mind. Really. 41 is still young and you have lots of time to make a better life for yourself.
2006-12-28 11:17:49 · answer #5 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just told me a hint of what I believe you are good at!
Interior Design or a Home organizer..
Once you find the one thing you are good about and have passion... you will find that you will be good in many other things..
it works like a domino affect!
But baby girl... I have to plea with you.. that no matter what... you need to make sure you do your very best as a mother..
Right now that is your most important job..
Ask God to bless your abilities.. heal your mind your vision and do things with different eyes.. like your self and take pride in the things you do... if your name is on it.. make sure it is the very best you did and move on!
God Bless you
2006-12-28 00:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe god gave everyone a talent. yours you say is plants, clothing ( is that design?), & travel. how about exploring careers in those fields like hiring out as a maid, floral shops, travel agencies. the options are there if you look a little closer. when you find your niche the motherhood part will become better because you'll more confident in yourself & able to handle the youngsters. good luck !
2006-12-28 00:46:53 · answer #7 · answered by audrey_halley2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you have a talent for putting yourself down!
I'm sure that you are good at lots of things but you need to like yourself in order to recognize the good abilities you have. You remind me a little bit of my sister. She is incredibly beautiful, charming, smart .. etc. But she doesn't see it. It's so sad.
Ask people who know you well to list 5 things they like about you. I did it for my sister :)
2006-12-28 00:44:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you keep beating yourself up, you will never become anything!!!
If you have children, you are responsible for giving them high self-esteem. How can you uplift your children if you can't lift your head?
Get up!! Pull your head out of the dirt and find something to thank God for, every day!!
2006-12-28 00:42:07 · answer #9 · answered by daddyduh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think we are all born equally but its just the way we present ourselves in life & the operturnities we chose and or are able to take that allow us to have special talent and abilities.
2006-12-28 01:05:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋