new year, new start, right?
well, i want to start off this year at school being nice & getting to have a lot of friends :)
for all you girls who are, or were popular, what'd you do?
& omg. please don`t say anythingg like, "popularity doesn`t matter once you`re out of junior high, highschool, etc."
it matters now. in our society. don't deny it, because you KNOW it does.
& most of the ppl who say things like "just be yourself. whether you`re popular or not, it doesn`t matter." were never popular so they say stuff like that, lol.
but yeah, please help!
with realistic answers (:
2006-12-27 16:33:44 · 17 answers · asked by Taylor. 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if u got friends your popular,
trust me being popular isnt as good as it looks
i've been there done it and wont do it again
so be yourself like others said before
if somebody know you exist,if anybody ever liked you,you've talked to people that really talked back your popular
so dont try to be somebody your not
:~)
2006-12-27 16:39:17 · answer #1 · answered by 100%Lovable 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To be popular [for the right reasons, I mean - not because everyone is too scared of you to cross you...] you need to concentrate on individuals. With starting back to school next week you will have a good conversation starter - "What did you do over Christmas break? What did you get for Christmas? Where did you go on New Year's Eve?" When the person answers, listen intently while looking at them and giving affirming nods or smiles. Don't be thinking of what you are going to say next. Say affirming things to the other person and ask them questions to go deeper into their answers. There is nothing more attractive than someone interested in you, so be that interested other party. Try to talk to a lot of different people. Sometimes when a person makes a friend, they spend all their time with that one person to the exclusion of others. Kindness and friendliness are hard to resist. You can be yourself, but make sure that 'self' is not doing socially unacceptable things.
2006-12-28 00:41:45 · answer #2 · answered by Cris O 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No actually popularity doesn't matter! I'm almost 24, and I wasn't the most popular kid in school, or hung out with them, but I was popular. Alot of people knew who I was, and they liked me, because I was myself. I didn't care what people said about me or to me. I didn't care what people thought.
I'm sure it also helped with the fact that I cared about other people, helped people when I could, and I was/am alot fun!
There's nothing you can really do to be popular, except be a total slut, which is actually pretty common in junior high/middle school, from what I understand. The only thing you can do, is what everyone else tells you. Be yourself, and don't worry about what other people think about you, or say about you!!
The thing you should be focues on right now, is your grades. If you get good grades, then you can get into a good college, then get good grades in college, and you can get an excelent job! Then you won't have to worry about being popular, because everyone will be kissing your rear, trying to keep you happy, so they can keep their jobs! And the people kissin up to you, will more then likely be the kids that used to pick on you when you were in school!
It's called Karma. It's real, and it's an everyday thing!
I'm sorry if you don't like my answer, but it's usually the answers we don't like, or choose to ignore, which are the best advice someone can ever receive!!
2006-12-28 00:41:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pluto 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not going to say that it doesn't matter in our society, but when you go for a job interview, they are not going to ask you how popular you were in high school. They are going to ask you what you skills are and how much experience you've had in this field.
Being popular is not having all the guys drooling at you feet and a bunch of girls following you around. I know this is not what you want to hear, but being popular is having close friends that really care about you, and don't love you because your popular.
2006-12-28 00:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Maddie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Frankie, So you want to be popular. Be recognised and be known...Listen try hard theres nothing wrong but do not do any stupid thing like other senseless idiots do like drugs and etc.
Do something genuine and something that is progressive and constructive. I use to know a boy in school, he wasn't good looking as such but this guy used to volunteer at old age home and used to be very compassionate and caring towards older folk that girls and later on boys thought so high of him. so something positive. ok and all the best.
2006-12-28 00:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well being popular doesn't really matter but being popular is pretty fun... a good way to start is by trying to make friends with one popular person. trust me if ur friends with one popular person pretty soon ur gonna be friends with them all. oh, and another good way to kind of get to know more popular people is to have a party where you can talk to and get to know more people. but if u have a party trust me don't just invite popular people. that would basically be a disaster if ur not very good friends with anybody who's popular. but try to kind of invite everybody. having everybody at ur party makes the party alot more fun for everybody and popular people r pretty much all about having fun. and it doesn't take alot of money to be popular. popularity is more based on ur actions. but remember clothes and appearances r kinda important too. and once you are popular, you can just be yourself with your new popular friends. but please, don't just forget your old friends. bcuz if u just desert them than ur pretty much becomming a snob and even most popular people dislike snobs. and one more thing. don't just do stupid stuff to make yourself popular, it's seriously not worth it. and don't put other people down. well good luck!
2006-12-28 02:05:55 · answer #6 · answered by gymnast33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being popular doesn't matter. I was popular once and I realized I wasn't being myself and that I made friends that liked me for someone I wasn't. As long as your yourself and have good friends who like you for who you are then your good. You shouldn't care if your popular or not.
2006-12-28 00:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by crazygranny72 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most people who are popular have this sort of attitude of i'm who i am and if you have a problem with that, it's your problem not mine. so wear the clothes you think are cool act like yourself (one of the things that looks really bad is when someone tries to be cool but they try too hard and they're fake and everyone can see) don't be afraid to be yourself because being yourself and acting like yourself and being confident in yourself makes you cool
2006-12-28 00:47:30 · answer #8 · answered by caridio_17 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being popular starts with being confident in yourself so you can be with other people. Start by stopping your self-centeredness, quite obvious from this question.
Then listen to people, really listen. Be a GOOD friend. Help them. Being popular is not about you, it's about people.
2006-12-28 00:40:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me keep it real with you. Popularity has alot to do with how you look. If you are attractive it will be alot easier for you to fit in. However, the more people you know the better. Get involved in activities that are well know such as cheerleading or class president. Just remember who you are!
2006-12-28 00:39:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋