We have a lot in common. We are both very sportive and also a bit manly (kinda dykes). Normally I am more atracted by feminime women, but she is special. I am walking on clouds, feel very happy and so. But she is 32 and I am 20. I would guess she to be 28 cause she is childish an has ADHD.
My Q:
What should you do? At this moment I see what will happens. I personnally like her very much and I don't really care about this age difference. But on the other hand, she already has a full life. (when she was 20 I was 8 and she has developed herself a lot more than me)
I hope you can give me advice what to do.
thanks
2006-12-27 16:29:13 · 12 answers · asked by frenzie-ann 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks for all your answers. They give me hope :-) and they were helpfull.
ADHD --> She is hyperactive, chaotic, childish, not very responsible etc etc. So that made me thought she to be younger than 32.
Good news--> Saterday she is coming to me and she takes her two labradors with her. And I take our dog with me and we go for a big walk. And my parents are ok with it. (I came out of the closet last week) So I am very happy!!!
2006-12-28 16:26:23 · update #1
Well, we have something in common.
I am 21, and the woman that I am with is 40. The funny thing is that she didn't know I was 21 until I told her. And even after that she swore for about 3 weeks that I was lieing and that my drivers license was fake.
You have straight women everywhere who are dating men well more than 20 yrs their senior. No one looks at them twice.
Society as a whole needs to understand that a homosexual relationship is just the same as a heterosexual one. Everyone has their preference... I have always preferred older women. I love the maturity that come with the age. Just like my straight friend loves older men... for the maturity. Don't let anyone other than yourself stop you from pursing this relationship. Being with someone who is older than you is no big deal. The main thing is that you two are happy with eachother. That's all that matters.
2006-12-27 16:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by CartoonFreak1985 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, age is relative--your relationship sounds wonderful. If it doesn't matter to her, it shouldn't matter to you. (I don't know what you mean when you say that you see what will happen.) So, she already has a full life, aren't you part of it? Or is this saying something I'm missing? I've seen many beautiful relationships with huge age differences. As for being further "developed"--that could be a big plus in many ways. I can't tell you what to do, but from what you've said, I'd just enjoy & see how it goes. By the way, someone bashed men...I don't know what ADHD is, either. Maybe you could add some details. I'd really like to know what you "think" she feels about YOU & maybe I could help.
2006-12-27 17:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by Psychic Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ur old enough, age plays a small part in a relationship unless there is little in common and if that's the case you shouldn't be together anyway. I'm 40 and I'm still getting carded at the casinos. And yes I've dated way younger people( the youngest was 20 and I was 36). Its just so happen that we were in the same place enjoying ourselves a few times and decided to try, I was her first. It didn't last long, but we had fun times and we are still friends.
2006-12-27 16:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by Tru 2 Myself 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I were your mother I would be flipping out about the age difference...so expect that from your parents. I just wanted to warn you.
I personally know a young man that was 27 (and very childish for his age) and he met a woman that was 45--and had 6 kids from her previous marriage. Her ex husband has custody of the younger kids--the older ones are on their own and almost as old as her new boyfriend.
You know what? That relationship is still going strong--nearly 5 years now. She helped him through college and he has landed an incredibly good job. A mean REALLY REALLY good job.
She has now quit her job to move with him to another state for his new job....
So I guess there are some relationships that do not fit into our idea of normal--yet they work for the people involved.
2006-12-27 16:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by maamu 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
of path, there have been situations the place those style of relationships have labored yet it somewhat is not reported. With one in each of those massive age difference, you ought to be sure that your tastes for some issues are extremely distinctive. At 22 you nevertheless have a tremendous form of time ahead of you. I recommend consistent with danger taking a ruin and you the two seeing people of your person age classification and seeing in the experience that your love fades slightly. in case you nevertheless choose for to be mutually after the ruin, communicate on your families and then I say choose for it! yet i think of you may think of it by way of heavily first. you already know what they are saying, 'in case you like something then enable is bypass, if it comes decrease back...'
2016-10-19 01:58:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh babe I going to drop myself right in it now and when the s*** its the fan I hope you stand up for me. I am a 54 lesbian, fem and have a 27 year old partner who is fem. That is a 27 year difference. We love each other and like my gf says, what is age but a number. What on earth as adhd got to do with it? As long as you can help her control it and you are happy with that what should you worry about. If you love her go for it babe and dont worry. Good luck sweetheart. Explain to silly simon what adhd is I havent got much patience with idiot men.
2006-12-27 16:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. My partner and have have an 18 yr age difference, and we're very happy together. I say go for it!
2006-12-27 22:12:48 · answer #7 · answered by Eat At The Y 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it...it's so rare to find someone you can be happy with. Seize your chance and run. Age is a number (I'm 18 years younger than my love--we've been together 11 years). Be happy sweetie!
2006-12-27 16:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by Jen-Jen 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with a 20yr old and a 32yr old dating. They are 2 consenting adults. Approach her with it and see how she feels. My sister is only 23 and is dating a 40yr old man, and their relationship is great and he gives her everything and worships the ground she walks on. Age is only a #.
2006-12-27 16:33:56 · answer #9 · answered by MRod 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Love is a very personal thing.
I don't think that anyone else can advise you regarding this; though, in my humble opinion, you should be looking at someone closer to your age than that, and of the opposite sex.
What's a ADHD?
Cheers!!!!
2006-12-27 16:34:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋