I'm having a lot of trouble with my sexuality and telling my mother my feelings, how or where should I start?

Answer 1

This is a tough one, & so far, many have given you thoughtful answers & reinforcement. However, not knowing your mum (or how old you are) basically limits me. I referred to your age only in the context that if you have to live at home, & she isn't accepting, it could be rough on you. If this is the case, I would NOT tell her.
However, if she's open minded, (hopefully!) I frankly don't see any reason to make a big deal of it, like making a confession or something, & hoping she won't disapprove.. If you're old enough to do so, just BE WHO YOU ARE. If you have a girlfriend, just bring her home as you would a boyfriend. That is what a friend of mine did, & no one in the family even commented on it. She & her partner have now been living together for many years, (she is her forties). Frankly, from my experience, making a big "drama" out of it is the worst thing you could do. UNLESS you feel compelled to tell her, & then it's entirely up to you. I hope I"ve helped a little, & wish you luck in whatever YOU choose.

Answer 2

I respect you for exploring your path of sexuality. It is not a comfortable journey you are on. Sometimes ignorance out shouts reason, respect, and affection. Note: outshouts - it is not stronger, only louder.
Your mother will probably be afraid. She will wonder what she did "wrong." She might ask if you are sure, if you can be "fixed."
She may not be able to cope with this for awhile.
We made just about every wrong move possible with our child. I would encourage you not to share this moment at a restaurant. There are some excellent resource materials available, but at first they should be at a very, very simple level. The material we obtained was so foreign to us as to be more harm than help.
While your dreams are unfolding, your mother's may very well be tanking. That in no way means you should change to protect her dreams, it is rather encouragement to share as much patience with her as you can while being true to yourself.
Private setting - sufficient time for discussion - "safe" exits when either party has handled all they can for that moment - contract to keep loving each other while the relationship adjusts.
God's peace and speed.

Answer 3

do no longer come out until and except you're a hundred% particular which you're gay or bisexual and not in basic terms dealing with a piece. Even then, do no longer make it any harder than it must be. %. a time whilst your mom is in a respectable temper and say, "i've got have been given some thing important that i might desire to tell you approximately...i'm gay/bisexual," or some thing like that. come out on your maximum depended on acquaintances interior the comparable vogue. the information might come as a ask your self to them before everything, yet whilst they actually love you, they are going to settle for you for whom you're in good time -- and you will experience so plenty extra helpful as quickly as you have gotten that information off your chest!

Answer 4

Does she really need to know? Really it is only you're business.

I'd say, weigh the situation? Does she seem like an understanding person? You have the advantage of having known her, and her reactions to things, all you're life.

Consider and weigh why you want to tell her these things? Is it cause' you would feel better if you had someone like her to talk too?

Cause' if you try it out in you're head, and it doesn't feel right to you, then maybe it won't be.

And you're still under her roof. So maybe it's just as well not to rock the boat, if you are still under her roof? Know what I mean?

If that's not a problem, go for it, if you want too.

Answer 5

First, do pick the right time, day and place to tell her. Pick a day or time that she would not easily recall that faithful day you told her you are a lesbian. Imagine if you told her in a family party? That would be awkward. Telling her on New Years day? She might have mix reactions every New Years day. Just pick a normal day to tell her and make sure she is not stressed or upset at that time. Good luck!

Answer 6

I would love to tell you how, but I doubt if it would work.

I never hid my feelings, but that's because in my family everyone is so open about how they feel. I was 12 yrs old, telling my parents that I had a crush on the lil girl down the street. They always knew and as did I. But, I do hope that the way you DO tell her works out for you both. Blessings to you both dahling.

Answer 7

Maybe just get her opinion of gay people in general...by bringing up a relative or tv character. Don't spring it all on her all at once...but definately tell her before she finds out by reading a letter or snooping. I know when my parents read a letter of mine and found out, they were livid. Also, there were no more sleep overs for me...lol. Be gentle. You're her baby. Depending on how old you are, I'd wait and be sure of how I felt before I came out of the closet to my parents. That could cause unnecessary chaos in the fam if you were one week and weren't the next. If you just want her to comfort you and give her opinon. Maybe you should visit PFLAG. Google it.

Answer 8

Last week, I came out of the closet.
My parents and my brothers and sister already knew, but I didn't told them before.
They are very tolerance with it (ok with it). They saw I was so happy and so (ok, I am in love) and I couldn't hide it any longer. I am glad I told them, now I can talk about my friend and they don't worry any longer.
I started with: well, I told her I love T, and they said, Oh, are you a lesbian. So, than I told them I am. (and T is also). That is a more easy start than to tell them you like women. If you are in love, you can't change that. That is why they accepted it very good.

I wish you good luck anyway, cause, it is very hard. (I can be happy with my parents, I hope you can be pleased to have a mum who accept it also!)
hug

Answer 9

Kayla, you need to tell your mother, so you can get the proper treatment for the trouble you are having with your sexuality.
This is not an uncommon feeling, many people having feelings for the same sex. This condition is treatable.

Answer 10

Babe that is a very hard question to answer. I just blurted mine out and she never spoke to me again. If I knew what I know now I would just sit down and approach it softly, softly over a matter of a couple of weeks, but giving her hints all the time to soften the blow.