I have wedding planned for January and I am not in love with my future husband and I don't know how to tell him and his family we have spent over 15,000 dollars for this day I just don't want to disappiont everyone but i really don't want to marry him how do I tell him please help me please !!!
2006-12-27 16:25:40 · 23 answers · asked by totally confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Atleast postpone it~but before you do this or call off the wedding, treat yourself to a good therapist to explore your emotions. Getting married is a highly stressful event.
Maybe thru some self-discovery you'll find out your just scared/nervous, or maybe your not ready yet. YOu'll have to investigate all your feelings first~I believe~ before you can decide if your in or out on this.
You know, it could be you really do love him....you don't want to end up with regrets either way though.
2006-12-27 17:09:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know that you DONT love him anymore. U may be experiencing cold feet, or it is just that you probably see each other too often, that it gets tiring. Try to stay away from him for the next week. and see how it goes. If you are really sure though, nows the time to tell him. Better than either not showing up on the altar, or live a lie ... Your choice !!!
2006-12-27 16:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by Ambien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you should have told him when he asked you to marry him. So now you're scared to hurt everybody feelings, and you're going to marry somebody you don't love, a marriage that is going to end in divorce. So when it end in divorce and you hurt everybody feelings how are you going to feel?
Or how you going to feel when your husband catch you having an affair because you don't really love him?
Do the man a favor and end it now by walking away and never looking back, sure he is going to hate you. However, he will hate you a lot more in a few years if you marry him and than divorce him (especially if children come from this union).
2006-12-27 16:41:11 · answer #3 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well regardless of how much money has been spent you can't marry a man that you do not love. just tell him that the kind of love that you feel for him is not the (spend your whole life with him) kind of love and that you don't want to break his heart but you have to follow yours. i know that it is a very hard thing to do but you have to. tell him that it would be wasteing time that he could be finding his one true love and you can't live with that on your chest.just make him understand how you feel you never know he may feel the same way. would'nt that be great. good luck
2006-12-27 16:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first find out how can you get the money back then tell him. try hard to get most of the money because 15,000 is alot to spend on a wedding. You should of never let it get that far anyway if you didnt love him
2006-12-27 16:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Beverly M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Halo by Beyonce Heard this song the other day and thought it was beautiful. I'm not sure it'll be what you're looking for but give it a listen. I'm not a fan of her and it's really not even my style of music, but I could definitely relate to the song.
2016-03-28 21:51:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him. Money is easy to get wasted time in a loveless marriage you NEVER get back. Besides don't you think he should have wife who loves him? Then give him a chance to find that which he cant with you there taking up space. Be cruel to be kind to both of you.
2006-12-27 22:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by ScottishhoustonGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, is it cold feet or do you really feel this way? You can't go on with it and hurt his feelings by betraying him and making him think you love him and want to be with him forever. Marriage is serious business and I hope you can sit down and talk to him about how you feel. He is to be your husband and if it is to be, he will understand you and listen to you. Just tell him before you walk down the aisle. And I hope you saved some receipts.
2006-12-27 16:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Suga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are this close to being married but the love aint there, you really need to tell him. He is your friend right? do you really want this for a good friend? money and other people should be the least of your worries. Good luck with this its tough.
2006-12-27 16:42:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure you are not in love with him, this is not just cold feet. Then you have no choice but to tell him. You should not go through with a marriage to a man you are not in love with. That would be very unfair. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-27 16:29:17 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋