My bf keeps pressuring me to have sex with him but i dont want to because i want to wait till mariage but he gets angry with me and tell me that i dont care for his feelings and I dont understand him and he keeps saying "what about what I want" I dont know how to answer him or if i should stay...........HELP
2006-12-27 16:20:25 · 43 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Its not abuse, its disrespectful...Leave him if he cant respect your decision...
2006-12-27 16:39:37 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
God is Nature - and Nature wants babies - so making babies would be OK - any morals are made by churches or masters to keep peace und have the subjects down, to vaoid trouble, actions necessary to have babies are fun - biologically in order to have babies, but as we are brain- equipped creatures, differing from animals in culture and using nature for our well-being (well not always in the right way, especially in industrialized countries), me can use also body pleasure without the original purpose. And normally it's a peaceful action compared to so many aggressive and destructive actions people perform, that should are surely against Gods's will. If you don't want babies now, you should take care of avoiding that beforehand rather than after. Because the after-method is not only against God's will but will haunt most women forever more or less...
2016-03-28 21:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heres the lowdown DUMP THE LOSER. He is only after sex. Your feelings have to mesh with his and at this point they don't. He is even quoting an over used line about what about what I want...well what about what you as in the lady wants. Well what you and he wants are not the one and the same. All he is thinking with is his balls. There are much better men out there who will wait until marriage. Keep on the lookout. Churches are the best places to find good dateable men. My friend wanted to wait till mariage. She meet her finance (getting married Yah) in a catholic church and has dated him for 2 yrs and their is no sex pressure at all.
2006-12-27 16:30:53 · answer #3 · answered by ursula_higgs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are American, you will have this kind of problem no matter who your boyfriend is because statistically, more than 90% of Americans engage in premarital sex (recent article in Newark Star Ledger). This means that if he chucks you and moves on there is a 90% chance that he will get what he wants with his next girlfriend. Not that I'm recommending that you surrender. That's up to you. It's just that you will have a lot of trouble getting away from this. Maybe if you go through enough boyfriends you will find one of the 10% that will accept your position. To answer your initial question, I would not term it "abuse". I would say it is more "harassment". Good luck.
2006-12-27 16:26:37 · answer #4 · answered by jhartmann21 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A relationship grows if you wait. What will you have to look forward to in marriage if you've allready done it? If he loves you, he will respect your decision. A guy will wait if he really and truly cares for you. If I had to do it all over again, I would have waited like I had planned. Although I am still with the same guy for over three years, it would have been so much more special if I had waited. I'm lucky the relationship is even still going. I've seen alot of my friends engage and soon end the relationship. It is my belief that it brings no good to do so.
2006-12-27 16:24:09 · answer #5 · answered by lauriecherie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is "abuse" (unless he has gotten verbally violent or physically forceful), but it is possibly stupid on your part to put up with someone that doesn't respect your point of view and values. If he doesn't respect your point of view and your values now, will he respect your values on staying faithful to you after marriage. Given what you told me I would run like hell, especially if he is getting "angry"
I admire you for your decision. From my personal experience, waiting 'till marriage has made my marriage stronger, although this was a decision my wife and I made together. Married almost 10 years now. Best to you!
2006-12-27 16:36:17 · answer #6 · answered by TR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's the one that doesn't care about your feelings. Be strong and don't give in. If he can't respect your decision then he obviously isn't the one that you're going to marry. Stop wasting your time. He doesn't respect you. If you give in just so he won't get mad, you're going to regret it for the rest of your life. The man that respects you and loves you enough to wait is the one that you are going to marry. Be careful, some men won't take no for an answer.
2006-12-27 16:25:10 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ALL MEN say that or something similar. And I would tell him to F*** off. And Leave you are young and beutiful it is so awsome that you are waiting till marriage, so dont waste your time on him. If he keeps saying what about what he wants, tell him what about what YOU want. he is truly honestly obviously just trying to have sex. Any real man that truly loved you would wait. And at your age a real man is hard o find you just have to stay strong and wait for the real ones to show up.
2006-12-27 16:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by cuetee220 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OK, not sure if we can call that abuse, but it's definitely being selfish. Now if you want to stay pure until marriage, no one can force you to do otherwise. Now two things can happen here, he will either cool his jets and respect your decision or he will just dump you for another girl willing to take care of his "booty call". So you need to lay down the cards to your b/f and discuss with him how is it gonna be with the relationship.
2006-12-27 17:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES ITS ABUSE.. What right has he to tell you that...IF you aren't worth waiting for to he** with him. You have the right to say NO. Send his butt packing if he keeps pressuring you into something that YOU do NOT WANT. Forget about what he wants. He can always do something else and if doesn't care about you in this way then he's not the man you really need in your life. I applaud you in keeping your vows as in no sex before marriage .. that is rare REALLY rare in our days. Just say no and if no isn't what he wants to hear say sorry been nice knowing you.Get him outta your life.. if he says otherwise.
2006-12-27 16:46:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU!!! So many girls just don't care.
You are doing the RIGHT thing!!!
He is on Hormone overload and this is a red flag if he won't respect you.
Sure it's hard to resist temptation, but you will look back and be thankful you don't have a disease, an out of wedlock baby, and other heartaches.
So stand strong and you will be glad!!! There's plenty of time for Mr. Right. God will be pleased also.
2006-12-27 16:29:45 · answer #11 · answered by 4263 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋