how would you feel or what what you say if your man/woman is still friends with the ex.....and what would you say if he/she had a dream about the ex!???
2006-12-27 16:20:24 · 18 answers · asked by Gorgeous J 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
my boyfriend isn't friends with his ex .... but if he was then hellllll no i wouldn't be with him!!!!! i believe that you brake up with that person for a reason and if you still keep in touch ...there's something still there!!!!
2006-12-27 16:38:42 · update #1
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2006-12-27 16:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Boop 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. Are they just casual friends, phone friends, lets have lunch friends, or lets go meet somewhere private friends? The boundaries you set will be the rules they follow. For me I would tell him that he can't have tons of phone calls or meetings without me. You have to remember that they have slept together so they have built an intimacy between them that makes things uncomfortable for everyone. Remember they should be feeling uncomfortable as well. You are sleeping with their ex. So sit down and talk to your partner and put everything out in the open. Tell them that you aren't demanding this, that this is just what you will tolerate. When you demand something like this it can make you either look bad or make them defensive. Just let them know what your comfort zone is, if they love you and things are on the up and up then it will all work out. If not, you have a ton of people that would love to date you. Good luck.
2006-12-27 16:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No woman can tell a man what to do. She can simply state what she will not tolerate and leave the choice up to him. With that in mind, I would have to say that this is something I would not tolerate. If there are no kids involved, then they have no business with each other. I have had many bad experiences with with situations like this. Some exes stick around in hopes of a fall out in your relationship so they can pick up the broken pieces. Watch yourself!
2006-12-27 16:30:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some things you can't control.....my ex and I talk about once a week......but it is strictly platonic.....but it is weird that you asked that question cause he told me the other day that he had a dream about me. I'm sure he didn't tell his new wife.
But if I were the new wife I wouldn't like it...but she knew his MO before she married him.....she was the other woman
2006-12-27 16:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Lolitta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure. It's funny that you mention this because the other day my boyfriend called up his ex and was going to ask her to a movie. I thought it was kind of strange, but didn't say anything to him. I can't imagine being good friends with an ex, kind of makes me wonder..
2006-12-27 16:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well....i have a boyfriend, and my ex is my best friend. sometimes things dont work out in a relationship..kinda way so they decided to be friends which is fine. having dreams about them is another story and it all depends on what kinda dream. so if its just a friend like type dream then dont worry but if its something else ...then yeah. you get what im saying.
2006-12-27 16:25:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would I LET them? He's an adult; he can make his own choices. I would think he's probably a decent person if he can still be friends with an ex. If he had a dream about her, there's nothing I could do about it. I'd just try to make sure our relationship was a good one.
2006-12-27 16:23:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and his ex wife have a good relationship and I'm so happy they do as it keeps harmony amongst all of us (and his child from that marriage). In fact, we all went out for coffee and dessert tonight, after they came over for dinner at our house!
I am friends with my ex (I'm the one that got away for him) and my husband is ok with it as well. My ex has told me that he can bounce things off of me, and he treasures my friendship the most. It's all in acting like grownups instead of high school. What we have works for us!
2006-12-27 16:26:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jen-Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely HATE it if my boyfriend was still friends with his ex. Once in awhile saying hello - ok - but if they're full on meeting up for lunch...going to the movies...no way!
I had something similar happen to me - so I dropped the guy. Several years later - he's married to the ex!
Cautionary tale...
2006-12-27 16:23:35 · answer #9 · answered by Stacey G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes: I'd have no choice to determine who my "significant other" chooses to remain friends with. Such people are a dear part of their past--a past before I came into their lives.
When you think about the situation, what better test of fidelity is there? This is a test for both them AND you.
2006-12-27 16:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf and i are friends with exes and we are both cool with it. i think it depends on you, your SO and your exes. the dream thing is another story. why did your SO tell you about it? what was the purpose of that? are you guys cool like that? my bf and i are pretty laid back, but that would be just too much for me.
2006-12-27 16:25:41 · answer #11 · answered by mbs4174 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋