Why are black people so resistant to black people who are different from them?

Question

I am a black girl who "acts" a bit different, (I am just being who I am) I don't like the sterotypical black people things meaning (clothing, music etc). I am more on the punk rock side. My delima is that the black people I have interacted with treat me quite badly, by saying mean things about me and taunting me. It makes me feel horrible I am a very nice person other than my diffrences and I don't understand their hostility towards me, I don't treat them any diffrent from anyone else. I am accepted fully by my huge number of white friends without problems but I only have 2 black friends. And I am sad to say it but I am starting to develope hatred towards the race as a whole. Why is it so difficult to accept someone who is diffrent?

Answer 1

people are afraid of anything that doesnt fit into the norm and some people just feed into stereotypes of how people of a certain race should act and are not ready to embrace change, people are individuals and should be treated as such, I often experienced the same problems you have while I was in school and was made fun of daily for not acting a certain way, not using any slang, not listening to rap or any r& b music and often told that I talked white , and was often made fun of for all of my differences and the fact that while everyone else was listening to all the new rap artists ect I was listening to heavy metal, gothic music and wearing black because it is what made me who I am and just were my preferences, the music and the non use of slang didnt make me different from any other person, so be proud of who you are and dont let anyone make you feel bad because of who you are because you can only stay true to yourself and it is important that you are happy with you at the end of the day, if you need someone to talk to feel free to email me on here....

Answer 2

I hear you. Don't pay any attention to people who give you crap. I know a Haitian guy who has gotten teased about his preppy clothes. It's not a black thing, just that you are individualistic and nonconformist, and that any ethnic group would act the same way toward people who act and dress differently.

I sometimes feel that I have trouble identifiying with my own white peer group and tend to be more comfortable around black people. I think your thing is perfectly normal, and people grow up too and change, so this is only a temporary state for you. Things will get better

Answer 3

This has been on my mind all day. Talking to another friend who grew up in the suburbs, we were talking about how we had the hardest times with other black people. We would chalk it up to perhaps being a different nationality, coming from the suburbs, etc. etc. but regardless, it's not fair and needs to stop! My friend had a girl for two years stare her down and want to hit her every time she passed by! I don't understand it especially since we are very approachable, warm girls who don't act stuck up...I don't get it either...and I'm sorry you are going through that as well. At least you know you're not alone...there's at least 20 of us who feel this way...ha

Answer 4

that's the problem. There's a million blacks being told that they are different and "not black" by what, a 1000 people. Look around. more blacks DON'T act like the sterotype on tv, then those who do. the problem is, people start feeling the pressure to be like those 1000. stand up for yourself, and be who you are! trust, me, i get crap all the time because i like all sorts of music, i use "big words", etc. however i come from a large family luckily who are obviously like me, and i got a chance to go to a great college and meet other blacks like me. so forget the 1000 who are trying to claim a sterotypical blackness and stand firm in the million!

Answer 5

girl i understand exactly what u are going thru. but u have to ignore them. people who treat u like that are just ignorant and closed minded. people like that will never see what life has to offer outside their own becuz they are bitter themselves. people tell me that i act white becuz i dress bohemian and listen to arabic and latin music. its so funny becuz black people always say that they hate being stereotyped but at the same time when another black person looks or acts different they are they first to talk ****. but the truth is i like the way i am and so should u. who cares what they say u can only u can please urslef and trying to please others will never make u happy. just do u!!