or how can you tell if they are really telling the truth?
2006-12-27 16:09:51 · 15 answers · asked by gracie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why is there this doubt for you? I am separated and I had to ask, although I knew, if there was someone else. It was met with anger and that I was obsessed and consumed with untrusting behavior. I was not, I just needed to ask. I do not think it hurts to ask. Try not to do this in the heat of an argument but when you are both talking and all is OK. After you ask the question & if you get a no or of course not response; the best advice I got was to follow up with why. Why you feel this and what has happened to make you want to ask. Tell them how important trust is for you and if you need a break to clear your mind they might understand. I have had real problems letting go but when I did it has improved our friendship and trust. I do not know what the future holds but you must be true to your feelings first and work on and thru them before going forward. You are doing the right thing.
2006-12-27 16:18:04 · answer #1 · answered by bSquirrel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They will not be able to maintain eye contact if they are lying. Your gut instincts will tell you if they are having an affair. If you have access, check their computer- you can access chat history and there are easy ways of checking if they have alternate e-mail accounts. Is this your mate or a friend? There's different ways with each to tell. There's even a book out there all about detecting affairs with your mate- I've listed a website about it below. If it's your mate, check credit card bills, telephone bills, their phone text message and call history. Your question is hard to answer as it does not say whether the person is a friend, or your mate, so since it's different with each, I hope this small generalization helps.
2006-12-27 16:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look up online, How to tell when someone is lying...it will give you clues to look for. Be aware that in the age of technology, cheating is very easy to get away with. There are cell phones such as "trac phones" in which the person has a separate phone # with no monthly statements billed. It is pay as you go with a prepaid calling card. You can buy one of these phones for $20 bucks and find them anywhere. Also dont forget, one can have several different email accounts via different ISP's such as hotmail, aol, yahoo....oh honey let me count thy ways. I have been cheated on and these are the scams amongst others...
2006-12-27 16:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the person is generally a honest person that helps. but if they lie about stupid stuff that does'nt really matter then it is hard to know when they are telling the truth. if the person has changed several things like leaving his cell phone in the car, wearing colonge at times when they did'nt before, being distant SEX, these are all warning signs. when they go to sleep go through there car, cell phone, wallet, pockets, look under the seats in the car, places where things or numbers can be hidden. follow them in a friends car that they don't know, make plans and give opportunity for them to make plans, so your not running everywhere all week wasting your gas. following someone is harder than you think. but your gut feeling will tell you. you just know and it hurts.
2006-12-27 16:22:40 · answer #4 · answered by curious64 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All these advices are really good for you. If you have an issue of trusting this person whether he is or not telling truth. It is better to move on to find someone you can trust. It is not worth it to be feeling what you feel. Good luck!
2006-12-27 16:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by stars 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the usual ways. Missing time, unexplained absences, not being where they say, immediate denial if questioned and/or repeating the question before answering. Strange or late phonecalls, etc. Get the cell phone bill and see how many calls are made to a number you don't recognize. Failure to look directly at you when answering questions.
2006-12-27 16:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by jack w 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can tell...for sure....especially if your usual habits together start to change.......and as far as lying it depends on how good of a liar he is.....and if they are having an affair i would think that everything that comes out of their mouths is a lie...get a private eye....you'll know 4 sure....i have no proof that mine is cheating but there has been a tremendous change for us....he even moved out.....but still says he loves me.....i feel like hes interested in someone else.....or even cheated on me...but i got no proof...well i hope you get all the answers you want to know....and if he is cheating......kick (ouch) to the curb
2006-12-27 16:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by mspain719 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask them openly and look straight into their face and their eyes. If they look up or away from you it is a sure sign that they are not being honest with you.
It is a method used by the police called neurolinguistic processing
2006-12-27 16:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to trust the person. If you can't trust him/her, then either you are insecure and/or jealous, or maybe the person has given you a reason not to trust ...
2006-12-27 16:27:17 · answer #9 · answered by danika1066 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you trust them? do some snooping through there personal stuff! find out there passwords to stufff or follow them around without there knowing! higher a private detective! do wut you can! i hope you help ad i hope, for your sake, your mate is lying
2006-12-27 16:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋