My father recently passed away, and I just wanted to know if it would be considered disrespectful to take pictures of him laying in his casket? Most of my relatives from his side of the family are the typical (don't mean this in a bad way), traditional Mexican-American family. Just wanted to hear some of your opinions, especially those that come from Mexican-American families.
2006-12-27 15:49:31 · 19 answers · asked by erikamendoza86 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Well as long as you are not giving him bunny ears.....it should be okay....keep them to yourself.
2006-12-27 16:07:23 · answer #1 · answered by Go Away 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that used to work at a funeral home. Many people did take pictures of the person in the casket. They did it in the private veiwing before the funeral though.
One person in particular asked the funeral home to take a roll of pictures because so many relatives lived to far away and couldn't attend. My friend elected me to do this. The people were very pleased with the pictures.
I think it is pretty common, but don't do it during the funeral service. I think that would be very disrespectful.
2006-12-27 16:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by Karen H 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Mexican-American, but sympathize with you and your wish to be respectful. I am also a Christian and most Mexican-Americans are also Christian. You might want to talk to the funeral director as to when you might take the photos in private. I understand your wish to take some photos-- he was your father so it's not really scary to take his picture. There are funeral photos of famous ppl that are published in magazines and books. I would be cautious about showing the pictures to family members. Give them a choice of whether or not they want to see the photos.
2006-12-27 16:28:13 · answer #3 · answered by Santa C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never seen anyone take one "during" the funeral.But i have seen people take them in the late evening after the viewing.....everyone else had gone for the evening to prepare for the up and coming funeral the next day.
I've seen 3 people do this, so it kind of makes me wonder how many people have pictures of their deceased loved ones.
basically, i would say...i guess its ok as long as few people know you did it as possible.
2006-12-27 16:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by Dream 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been to a hundred funerals in my life and Ive only seen a couple of pictures being taken. I think it is a little rude and disrespectful. Ask to take photos between viewing times, and when the family is gone for the evening.
2006-12-27 15:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I wouldn't. But, that's me. I don't like to be reminded of such events. You might talk to a few of your relatives who would be open to discussion and see what they think.
The big thing is not to make an already traumatic event worse. My gut feeling is if your taking pictures, then you might be avoiding dealing with the situation. If it's that important to you, hire someone outside the family to do it.
2006-12-27 15:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by bionicbookworm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont come from a Mexican-American family... but in my view i dont think there is anything disrespectful in that.... becoz i have lot of pic. of my grand parents in there casket...... Both my mom & dad's parents passed away..... v kept professional people to take pic.....
2006-12-27 15:53:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. The purpose of a funeral is to pay your respects. I am sure this is not the way you would like to remember your father...nor how your father would like to be remembered. Rather he should be remembered "in life" not "in death".
Dont use this time to exploit him. This time is for reflecting on his life, to mourn, and to pay your respects.
Remember to be absent from the body is to be presant with the Lord. Celebrate his life rather than his death.
Many People have said to consult your family and community regarding this....What do you believe your fathers wishes would be? How would you think he would like you to remember him...I am sure he would rather you held tight to all your wonderful memories of him instead. But only you or your family would be able to answer that.
May God Bless you and those around you in your time of trouble.
Sorry for your loss.
2006-12-27 15:58:55 · answer #8 · answered by motorcitygirlee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid that the only ones who can answer this are the ones in your immediate community and share your cultural ideals. In some cultures, it's okay, but in others, it's deemed ghoulish.
I personally have no problem with it; I'd just rather remember my loved one in a photo of when he or she was alive and happy.
2006-12-27 16:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope don't do it..Remember him as you know him ask family members if they have pics it's wrong 2 take his pic in a casket
2006-12-27 15:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by sugarbdp1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Mexican, but if you take the pictures, please do it privately in the slumber room (with the door SHUT). Decide later who if anyone should see those pictures. I personally think it is a good idea, but some may be offended.
2006-12-27 15:52:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋