My fiance and I share a two bedroom apartment with another girl. She is very messy and will almost never help with cleaning. I've come to accept that she is probably never going to participate in any real cleaning, as I've tried many different ways. However, I want to know if there is any who has ideas of how I can convince her to at least keep things clean and not leave areas a mess.
Thanks for any suggestions.
2006-12-27 15:36:00 · 10 answers · asked by Rachel 1 in Home & Garden ➔ Cleaning & Laundry
Any mess she leaves behind in the kitchen, bath, or main living area can be scooped up and placed in the middle of her bed. That includes any dirty dishes, wet towels, or just general clutter she leaves behind. That way her mess is in her room and she can either deal with it or live with it.
2006-12-27 15:42:05 · answer #1 · answered by Country girl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If all else fails, since she is just a room mate you could tell her to clean up after herself or move. But that is drastic.
Have you tried writing her a letter? Or there is something that a father did to make his messy daughter clean her room: He posted pictures of her messes online. The girl was rather embarrassed about it and actually cleaned up. Then she posted clean-room pictures.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 15:43:48 · answer #2 · answered by Tigger 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you really should let her know she isn't the only one living there, some people need to be told bluntly, also if your going to keep picking up after her she going to keep doing it, DON"T accept it, (my husband is messy, but hates living in a mess if I clean it he keeps doing it, but would never just leave it if someone wasn't going to do it for him). If you can't be blunt (some people can't, I can't always) Go to the dollar store get a few plastic laundry baskets and just toss her crap in them and stick the stuff right in front of her bedroom door (You may not want to just walk in her room) and in the kitchen get to of those plastic dish tubes on for you and one for her, tell her your not her maid your her roommate, you don't expect her to clean up after you why should you clean up after her.
2006-12-27 15:51:25 · answer #3 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there something that you think you do that may bother her? If so, maybe you could offer up a compromise. You’ll promise to stop __________, if she’ll pick up after herself more and share the duties – at least in the common living area. Given the time of year, make it a resolution sort of thing.
Good Luck, and Happy New Year!
2006-12-27 15:51:15 · answer #4 · answered by niddup33 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain....tell her the rent will need to go up another $70 a month because you are going to hire a maid to come in twice a month to clean up after her. I rent a room and that is what we do. We share the maid expenses too. It is sweet. But I still need to pick up after myself. Let her know how unhappy this is making you.
2006-12-27 15:45:49 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryls 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok Rachel....Embarrassed to say but I am brutally familiar with your scenario. Be just as nice and as sweet as you can be - Kick her out. This may be a friend of yours or his, but relationships are hard enough without the help of roommates. Been there, done that, and divorced because of it....If I continue on I would only be preaching the choir.
2006-12-27 15:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by ge_krueger 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds like it is time for your roommate to move out.
You and your fiance are at the next stage of life and it you would both be better off with a more private living situation.
2006-12-27 15:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the piling everything she leaves behind on her bed idea. if she doesn't catch on to that, throw her out
2006-12-27 15:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by cheezy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whilst she places her stuff on your mattress all you will desire to do is to stroll up on your mattress and crash on precise of her stuff. Wiggle around slightly so it gets real wrinkled and look shocked and say " oops, sorry, i assume, This would desire to be yours,precise?" consistent with risk she would be able to get the message. next time you havve to return over on your mattress and spill something on her stuff. " oops, sorry, i assume i'm clumbsy".
2016-12-15 09:29:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem and so i had to move out so me and my hubby moved out by ourselves at the time he was just my boyfriend.
2006-12-27 15:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by carrie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋