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I just moved to a new school. I have no friends. there's this guy in my class who has been consistently making fun of me,calling me names, talking all kinds of crap and spreading romours about me for no reason at all. it has been going on for more than I month. he has alot of friends, and as I mentioned, I'm a loner. I have no one to back me up. he seems to be nice to everyone in class except for me. I get so pissed off sometimes I want to punch that guy in the face. but I know that won't do me any good. just what does he have against me? this counts as being bullied, right? should tell the teacher on him? or any other suggestions on how to get him to stop bullying me and possibly get even with him?

2006-12-27 15:30:47 · 19 answers · asked by cheesestrings0204 1 in Family & Relationships Friends

19 answers

I would talk to someone about this...

2006-12-27 15:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1 2

I was bullied back in hs too.. like you, i was a loner and didnt know many people in school either. To answer your question, i dont think this guy really has anything against you personally, hes just messing with you cuz he knows that he can get away with it! And hes probably just doing it to get attention or to entertain his 'buddies'-- as you said, hes got a lot of them! Honestly, i think the best way to deal with people like him is to prove them wrong, and show that they CANT get away with that crap with you-- loner or not!! The best way to do it would be to def speak out.. so do tell your teachers, your family, anyone who you feel might help! Whenever he makes a joke or says something about you, try to throw something 'smart' right back at him.. or if you dont wanna play along with his game at least make sure that you look clearly annoyed by everything that he has to say.. this wont guarantee that he will stop, but it will let everyone else know that he has no idea what hes talking about.. so those NOT down at his level wont listen. Now, u may or may not get even with him since he got so many people on his side (i personally never got that chance..), but one thing you can do is make sure not to let him bring you down!!! Just remember that if somebody picks on you its usually not about you but about themselves-- THEY are having some issues!!

Good luck with that, and i hope this problem gets solved so you can start enjoying ur high school experience!!

2006-12-28 00:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by sweet_lady 1 · 0 0

Tell the principal. Get your parents involved. The only way to stop a bully is by bullying them. Remember, this isn't about you personally... you're new and he targeted you because it was easy. He has a crappy life so that's why he picks on you. Don't tolerate it. If he keeps it up get the police involved. I am completely serious because bullying leads to so much pain for so many people and their families... it's abuse and it has to be stopped. I'm so glad you recognized the fact that you are being bullied and want to do something about it. You have to stand up to him, and get others on your side. He isn't listening to you but he might back down if the principal humiliates him. This is how you get even. Pretty soon he'll have a new target (not that that's a good thing), but that is how bullies operate. I was bullied in school for a while and my mom went and told the bully off, that did it at the time but it varies for each situation.

2006-12-27 23:39:00 · answer #3 · answered by Principessa 5 · 0 1

Tell your teacher. Suggest s/he hold a conference to clear the air. Confront him with the teacher's support. Say just what you said here to him (except the part about wanting to hit him and/or get even.)
I don't know if you are male or female. If you are a girl he may have a crush. If you are a boy he may be trying to make sure you understand the pecking order and that he considers himself ruler of the roost.
Involving your teacher in confronting him will help in several ways: 1. Most likely he will stop. 2. An adult can witness his attitude and your attempt to make peace. You will get more support for being mature about it and wanting to resolve the problem.
3. If he doesn't stop, tell the teacher about it again. Or, go tell the principal. The teacher will have to say you tried to resolve the issue and the bully will clearly be seen as the aggressor.
You deserve to be comfortable at school. Tell.

2006-12-27 23:43:27 · answer #4 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0 1

You are the new kid on the block and no one knows you! This guy is threatened by you and your mystery life! Have you tried to make friends at your new school? You should because having friends kinda helps you fit in somewhere! Have you considered getting involved with like a team sport, drama, art, and/or band? Sometimes having similar interests with others helps you to meet new people. And, maybe your mom and his mom can have lunch together and discuss this issue with one another! Do something to meet others so that you do not remain an easy target!!! (i think if you tell the teacher that it will make your situation worse)

2006-12-27 23:43:39 · answer #5 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0 0

Bullied, Yes. You will just have to get up enough guts to ask him what the He** is his problem. Some may suggest that he just likes you and is trying to get some negative attention from you, but it sounds like it's been going on for quite some time and enough is enough.
I don't know how old you are, but my daughter went to a new school and some boys were picking on her while riding the bus. I called the school, the bus driver and told them to make sure they stopped. To be bullied is not pleasant and hurts.

2006-12-27 23:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Sometimes the biggest bullies are the ones who are actually the biggest wimps. Confront him, try to catch him alone and ask him what his problem is. Your just trying to get through moving to a new school and you don't need any hassle from him. If he knows your not afraid of him, then he'll stop, but if you don't speak up, he'll continue doing it. Don't let it escalate, if it does, report it immediately to a teacher or your guidance counselor.

2006-12-27 23:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly 3 · 1 0

It does sound like you are being bullied. I'm sorry to hear. I know you don't want to tell your parents, but I think that you should tell them or at least tell your teacher. They can do something about it, if not at least they are aware of the problem. That way the next time he "bullies" you, you can kick his butt without being penalized because it is self-defense. The only way to stop a bully is to stand up to them. You may get him to stop by telling him off, fighting should be the last resort.

2006-12-27 23:37:16 · answer #8 · answered by mypassions4life 5 · 1 1

yes you are being bullied. you might want to tell some1 or stick up 4 urself. when u stick up 4 urself or 4 others u gain those ppls respect. just go with what feels rite 2 u

2006-12-27 23:47:09 · answer #9 · answered by JM7 2 · 0 0

if i were you id go talk to a teacher or guidenc conseler. my life was like that when i first came to the school im at. it turned out that what the guy was doing counted as sexual harassment and he is now susspended because he messed with two other girls also (my bffl beingf one of them so you can understand how i dont really feel bad for him)
lots of luck!

2006-12-27 23:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by annia104 2 · 1 1

Well I got bullied and they were smaller than me so I beat them up, but if they are bigger you need to secretly go to someone like the principal or the teacher for help.

2006-12-27 23:34:49 · answer #11 · answered by bregail12 1 · 1 1

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