how can i tell my parents that i dont want to give up temporary custity of my baby that hasent even been born?

Question

im 16 and i dont know what to do i need a lot of help and the dad of the baby will be here for ever with me and the baby

Answer 1

You are young and naive...I do hope the father is with you forever, but the liklihood is doubtful...I am just being realistic with you. If you don't want to give up temp custody, then don't...but what are your parents motives for wanting to do that? They probably have good logic and reasoning behind that request...you should listen to them, or before you know it, you will reflect back on it and wich you had listened. Good Luck to you and the baby.

Answer 2

Don't count on the father because you never know. But what is best for the baby? Can you and the father provide or just make ends meet?

If you want to keep the baby, I suggest you talk to your OB and ask him for the the name of an agency that will help you make a wise decision. And, if the includes keeping and raising the baby, they will help you find a way to tell your parents.

I am not sure there is such a thing as temporary custody for a baby. You can have an open adoption but how would it be fair to the baby to spend years thinking someone was their parents and then you come and take it away.

And remember that your parents are not under obligation to pay for you and your baby!

Answer 3

my best friend was 16 when she had a baby and it was hard but she made it work if your parents will let you get married or live together then one of you can work while the other takes care of the baby. also there is food stamps and hud which helps you pay rent and medicaid health insurance for the baby. her daughter is 2 now and doing perfectly great, her baby father though didnt stick around he committed suicide a yr ago and she still managed alone now she is 5 mo pregnant with another baby. congrats and dont give that baby up if you think it is the wrong decision.

Answer 4

I had my first child when I was 16, and I kept her. Things can be hard, whether the father is there or not, but I respect your decision to keep your child. Ultimately, the decision is yours and not your parents' - if they don't understand that, then maybe you can talk to your boyfriend's parents. They may be willing to help you out. Since you are now responsible for the life of your unborn child, you need to sit down like an adult with your parents and tell them that this is your decision, and you would appreciate it if they would support you regardless of their decision. Tell them you are accepting responsibility for your own actions, and that you have considered their suggestions, but you really believe you are doing the right thing for you and your baby by keeping it. Hopefully, your parents will understand this and be willing to help you out emotionally if nothing else. I wish the best for you and your new family!

Answer 5

Babies are very hard especially if your still in school and stuff. I know the babies dad says he will be there forever but, I have heard that before and it's not always true. Who wants custody? Your parents? If it's someone in your family who wants the baby I would suggest letting them until your really ready. They are a TON of work and it's a 24/7 job but it's your decision and you are the only one who can make that decision. It's your baby.

Answer 6

speaking from experience. i had my first child at age 15, got pregnant in my latter 14, my mom and dad did not want me to keep my baby either. they were worried that i would not finish school go to college, etc.. me and the father of my baby were in love. he was always going to be there through thick and thin. well to make a long story short, i stayed living with my parents til i was 16 and move out and married my true love. we had the world by the ***. {so we thought at that time} well after 8 months we were tired of each other and i couldn't take care of a baby by myself, and we were babies ourselves. we got divorced and i still stayed living on my own across the street from my parents and raised my daughter on my own with help from my parents. i took night courses to finish school and get my g.e.d. i have to admit that it was hard. i finally got into nursing when i turned 22 and been doing that ever since. but i find myself wondering what i would have been if i would have stayed in school and listened to my parents. i don' regret having my daughter, i love her dearly. just think about what it will be like if your love of your life does the same thing. i wish you all the luck, but only you can make that decision. but it will affect the rest of your life.. may god be with you.

Answer 7

If you give up your baby, you will have a guilt complex the rest of your life. Very few women can emotionally recover from giving up a child.

You made a mistake getting pregnant so young, but that is your lot in life. Unless you are emotionally unstable and will harm your child, you really should keep it.

Just my opinion.

Answer 8

tell them YOU want to raise your baby. No one can make you give up your child. It is very hard though but worth it. Don't rely on the fact that you think the father will be there and don't let that be a part of your decision...when it comes down to it you will be the one raising this child and you need to have a plan.

Answer 9

Why would you be giving up temp custody, and not have full custody to begin with. Sounds like theres more to this, than that your'e just young. And consider what you would do, if the baby's dad's not there forever. No ones here forever.

Answer 10

It's "custody." Tell them you are the parent and you will not give it up, even temporarily.

And be realistic - I highly doubt the baby's dad will be there "forever."