or gf's in what they want to do with their lives, like going back to school or getting a job, cause my bf is JUST NOT supportive of me in anything other than sex stuff, are all men this unsupportive?
2006-12-27 15:15:13 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, not all men are like that. There are some great men out there. You just happened to find one of the not-so-great ones.
Your best bet is to become a strong, independent woman. When you do that, the "bad" guys won't be able to touch you.
Best luck and take care.
2006-12-27 15:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Talking from the point of view of a lady... If a man desired to present my baby away, he's not someone i might need to have around anyway. I do not feel she used to be correct to cheat, and i'm surprised he used to be capable to forgive her so quickly... However the welfare of the baby is an additional thing; the baby will not be punished for the moves and feelings of the mothers and fathers. Edit: The first-class situation for a youngster is with it can be mother and father. Your state of affairs isn't a enough reason for adoption in any respect; it should only be an choice in instances where both moms and dads are physically unable to shield the little one. It's no longer particularly the man's decision anyway; if I was once pregnant, i might be keeping the little one with me and it will always come first. If I had to choose between my husband or my youngster, i would select my child. I cannot assume any mother who would not.
2016-08-10 04:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by koes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you are feeling. I try my best each and everyday to take care of our new baby, dogs, home, bills, etc. Plus I work two jobs. However, my husband does nothing but complain that I don't clean the house well enough, take care of the dogs well enough, and comments that it is not hard taking care of a baby while working two jobs. I'm actually thinking of getting a divorce. I don't know about all men, but my husband certainly doesn't support me. My advise to you. If you are experiencing no support not from your bf, leave him. Don't get tied down to him with marriage and a baby!
2006-12-27 15:22:58 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given that the divorce rate is about 40 percent (when you factor in all marriages, not just new marriages) and given that of those divorces 3/4's are BY WOMEN, then you understand that it is more about women not being supportive of their husbands. But if your husband is not supportive you have the power to change that. Men are like putty to women. Women really have the true power in marriage. Use it. Find out how. Read "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands."
2006-12-27 15:18:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took three miserable tries at marriage, but I finally found him: the supportive man who is not a sappy whimpy whiner. My man does not back down or give in if he believes he is right, but when it comes to me and my career, he is behind me all the way. In fact, he FORCED me to finish a degree that I had put on hold for...well, forever. I am in a career that doesn't pay 1/2 as much as I am worth, but I love what I do, and he WANTS me to love what I do. That is a REAL man. We have been married 8 years now---longer than all the others, combined!
Now, as for you: Yes, there are wonderful men out there. There are wonderful men who ARE the entire package, and trust me, you can/ will find him if you wait and refuse to settle. You have to set standards for yourself and stick with them to the bitter end. That does not mean you don't date someone who is hot, just because he doesn't meet your sensitive criteria--it means you keep him on the side until you find the one that you want to marry. Men don't change. They try sometimes, but you get (for better or worse) what you have in the beginning. Have you ever seen South Park the movie? I always think of the Saddam song/ dance bit, where he tells Satan, "I can change, I can change."
Keep looking. He is out there--the one that you hope will always stay just the way he is. The one who will love you in just the right amounts (not too much, not too little), and push (guide) you (gently) into your life, while protecting you fiercely from those things that try to stand in your way of success. But, in order to find him, you have to keep your eyes open--don't be blinded by mediocre.
2006-12-27 15:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by mad_madison_maiden_x 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, yes, girlfriend, there are many supportive men out there! What were your criteria for good male candidates? You need more than a sex life. If you can't connect emotionally on a mature level, a relationship based solely on sex or physical attributes will eventually fall by the wayside. Your social/intellectual/emotional/financial hungers will need nourishment too. Keep looking! They're out there!
2006-12-27 15:43:41 · answer #6 · answered by Meow 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a funny question. I'm recently divorced and ask myself this question all the time. Are any men worth it? I think my ex must miss me a lot now that I'm gone, and then I think "nah--he's probably shagging some blond." It's easy to get disheartened. But, I must say, I think guys care about women when they are in love with them--my ex was really nice to me before we married. I also know some married men who are really nice to their wives, and have good character. So, I'm sure there is hope. Good luck.
2006-12-27 15:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by crazyloonynice 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, my bf is totally in favor and supportive of anything that I want to do as long as it is good for me and/or us, such as going back to school. It is not all men and my current bf is the first one I've had that is supportive although he is not the only one.
2006-12-27 15:18:25 · answer #8 · answered by lisa h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, they are not. Some are mad as hell we have to take on this role to take 'care' of them.
My husband is not well, and brags to his friends that I take care of us right now financially. When and if he ever returns back to work.. he doesnt like the fact I am the proverbial 'man' of the house, but he respects me as he always did as an equal partner in our marriage and life together. He's proud his wife makes as much as he does, and his salary missing from the account has not crippled us financially.
Sounds like your man has a little growing up to do... he should be damn proud of you and that you want to go back to school and get a job to help contribute to your family's future.
2006-12-27 15:34:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes we are all unsupportive, and my wife told me we should probably go seperate ways! But, I promise you if she stays, i will be supportive and show her she is more then a sex toy to me! Good Luck!
2006-12-27 15:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋