my son (10 months) does not like playing with his toys. the only time he will show a slight interest is if i am sitting right next to him. there are times that i will put him in his crib/playpen with a few toys, and as soon as i walk out, he starts screaming and crying. all he wants is for me to hold him. what can i do? is this normal?
2006-12-27 15:08:46 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
When my kids were that age they did not like being alone either. They grew out of it, but I did not go back in and get them when they screamed, either. You need to get him used to amusing himself, but do it gradually. Right now he is used to screaming when you are not there and getting attention, so break him of that gradually. One thing you can do is to sit on the floor and play with him with his toys. When he is playing, move farther away and take your focus off him, for just a little while. Then, while he is still in a good humor, go back to him and play with him or hold him. Over a period of days work your way closer to the edge of the room. Talk to him cheerfully and sing a lot. One day, go out of the room while singing, and pop right back in and sit down and play with him. Make the absences slightly longer, and hopefully he will become more able to tolerate being out of the room with you. One thing I did that helped was, I went to a TON of garage sales and got FOUR SMALL PLASTIC CONTAINERS of rattle type toys. That is a bunch, okay, but I would rotate them, so my baby would have a different set every two days, and that went a LONG WAY towards the baby being able to spend a few minutes amusing himself. In a few months he will be able to follow you from room to room anyway, and this will be a moot point! Make sure you go to him and pick him up and give him attention plenty of times when he is not crying, and do not do it when he is crying, to help reinforce not crying to be picked up when there is nothing wrong.
2006-12-27 15:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him scream and cry. He's obviously gotten used to you holding him and cooing to him every time he throws a fit. Break him of it now before it turns into tantrums in stores when you won't buy him what he wants. Believe me, he'll be out of control later if you don't.
Some babies aren't really into toys... especially if they aren't noisy with lights and lots of interactivity. I wouldn't worry about it.
2006-12-27 23:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Luann 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes i have the same thing that u are having right now and my son is only 4 months and he is the same way he only wants me to hold him ya i think that its normale well if u would like to talk more about this then email me at megryanmc@yahoo.com
2006-12-27 23:13:01 · answer #3 · answered by megryanmc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be taught how to play with them.
And it sounds like he might have a bit of separation anxiety, which is normal at this age.
Play peek-a-boo with him a lot. This helps with the separation anxiety sometimes.
2006-12-27 23:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop responding to his WANTS...and pay attention to his NEEDs. He has you under control. He doesn't play with his toys because everytime he cries you pick him up.
2006-12-28 01:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋