I have a friend who is being emotionally blackmailed/forced to marry his cousin in pakistan. My friend did not have a problem with this at the age of 16 as he liked the girl, in many indian/pakistani families they like to marry withint the famil as in cousins. However as he has got older in his late 20's he regrets getting close to her as she has similar features as his mother and it makes him depressed. He does not want to marry her anymore and feels that he wont be able to communicate with her on the same level as he is from the UK and she is from pakistan. His parents are not listening and tell him to leave if he wants to bring an outsider into the family. IWhat should he do?
2006-12-27 15:01:42 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People from Indian sub Continent are supposed to listen to their parents hence your friend is feeling depressed, but if he have a frank talk with his parents regarding his mind of not getting married to this girl & even tell them he will never say kabool when asked by the Kazi during Nikhah I think they may agree with him.
2006-12-27 16:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by bisexualmale s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is not willing to marry then he should not marry
its his life n his decisions parents are important but its him who have to spent his life with his wife not his parents
i believe if his family cant understand his feelings better he should live home know he grown up isn't he?
later on of coUrse there parent will ask him to come back n will not force him again this way
living home or threatening to live home trick always works.
best of luck to ur Friend
god bless you n Ur Friend too.
2006-12-27 17:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by shabana o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋