Honestly, what is the impression of a person, female, who is divorced by the time they are 25? Is it all negative? Would she ever be able to find someone who wouldn't find her outrageously scarred and full of baggage? Or is it possible for someone to see past that divorce thing and realize it wasn't her fault?
And once dating again, how long do you wait before letting it out that you are in fact divorced already, without appearing to be hiding it?
2006-12-27 14:55:29 · 25 answers · asked by jen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont have any impression... except that that person's marriage did not work out for some reason or another.
I think there are plenty of people that can easily look past something like that especially if you are a good person.
Don't worry about what people think about your divorce.. let it be known like it doesnt bother you.. it made you who you are and you learned from it.... if that person is bothered by it.. then quickly push them to the curve.... dont waste your time trying to change someone's view. :)
2006-12-27 14:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by yo mama 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honey everyone has been divorced.... especially if they married right out of high school... So where are you getting that divorced women are all scorned and full of bad baggage. If you get dating again you are going to find out that the men you are dating are probably divorced too... so come off the excuse of not getting out there and having some fun... at twenty five your life is just beginning... your best years are yet to come... and you absolutely do not need to be married to a man to have a fulfilling life... I know here in the great USA being divorced is a prestigious thing... Everyone is doing it...
2006-12-27 23:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Autumns Destany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married at 18 and divorced by 22. I will be 29 in a week and I'm about to tie the knot again. He has absolutely no problem with me being divorced so young. we've been together 4 years, and there has never been a negative word about it. I don't think anyone in their right mind would judge you for that. Don't try to hide it, though. Always be straight forward and honest. Hiding it will probably cause problems.
2006-12-27 23:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord, I hope it's not as bad as that! I was divorced by the time I was 23.
And, when I married my second husband, I had some experience under my belt, and was ready for real life.
The fact is, your next relationship will have nothing to do with your previous one. What it will deal with is how you've grown as a person and what you've learned in life since that mistake.
Your own self confidence is the single most sexy quality that guys will look for in you.
Good luck, and just so you know you're better than this question. Way better. You deserve to be happy, so quit asking yourself questions that are scary, and start living life again. You'll be happy in the end. I promise!
2006-12-27 23:00:55 · answer #4 · answered by sdkramer76 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would their be baggage? I mean yeah if it wasn't her fault but if their is baggage then she isn't ready but if the baggage has been put behind her then she is ready to date. Seriously I am 27 and was seperated at 24 and that was because my ex thought it was okay to grop kiss and make elicit promises to a 14 year old, and got away with it because she nor her parents never contacted the authorities. they moved to Oklahoma. I am over it now because why dwell on the past there isn't anything I can do and besides that he was abusive and I got out and I am happier than ever.
2006-12-27 23:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by WINGS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, It is not all Negative and yes you will find somone else.
It does not matter who's fault it was or wasent. Life happens and you can not always control it. You made the choice that was best for YOU and thats all that matters.
I was divorced by the age of 23 with two kids.
I never hid the fact that I was divorced or that I had children prior to even going on a date they knew these facts. Be upfront and honest about it.
2006-12-27 23:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would think you had enough sense to end a troubled marriage before you invested too much time and emotion.
In your shoes I would probably wait until the other person asked and then just state that you are divorced and don't elaborate unless they ask. Then be brief and kind if possible when describing the circumstances so you don't look like the bitter, jilted ex-wife.
2006-12-27 23:01:38 · answer #7 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact is people fairly often get divorced, it happens. When someone gets to know you, if they fall in love with you because of who you are as a person, the past then shouldn't matter. Everyone has made mistakes - that's how we learn. In today's society, it is not uncommom to divorce and remarry.
2006-12-27 23:01:43 · answer #8 · answered by Venus 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We all make mistyakes, I don't think anyone can throw stones at anyone for anything anymore. Our mistakes and choices may be different but I've found as I've grown older that most people do not judge as harsh as we think they will. We are much harder on ourselves than anyone ever is on us. Look at is as a learning expereince and take the lessons with you- you have a great life still ahead. Don't be ashamed to tell someone you are dating that you were married. You were in love- gave it a shot and it didn't work- YET- you've got the courage and strength to move ahead. :)
2006-12-27 22:59:51 · answer #9 · answered by littledreamergirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
why are you so worried what others think??? I was divorced when I was 25... I made a bad choice..everyone does. Just live your life to make YOU happy not everyone else
2006-12-27 22:57:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋