I had a big break up with some guy because of differences in religion, we were never officially together but it was getting serious so he chose to end it. He wanted us to forget about each other and just move on.
I found that I couldn't do that. In my opinion, pretending like nothing happened or pretending like the other person didn't exist. I don't hate him nor do I hope for any misfortune to come to him, neither am I planning several scenarios to make his life miserable. I'm not that kind of person.
It took all my courage to call him up this afternoon and told him everything i needed to say. I said that we didn't have to be together as anything more than friends, but I really valued his friendship and I asked him if we could start over. After explaning myself he finally agreed.
Now, what I want to know is if what I did was the right thing or was it truly the biggest mistake I've ever made?
2006-12-27 14:22:35 · 10 answers · asked by Callista 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, if I understand this right . . . you broke up because of having different faiths in God. The truth is, couples have a hard time when they are on different planes of spirituality.
Now you decides how much you like him and would rather be friends than nothing. That's great! I think you're right.
I think this is the right thing. In fact, it's better than separating completely. If by chance you want to date again, that isn't a crime, but it isn't easy.
I don't know what faith you are, but here's a Bible verse:
1 Corinthians 7:12-14
12But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her.
13And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away.
14For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.
So, chose as you will. Life is a journey.
2006-12-27 14:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation, although not entirely the same. But frankly, much as anyone can tell you if you are right or wrong, it's up to you to decide if this is what you want.
If you are the sort who will live your life thinking "what if", then I say, go ahead, give it a try. You'll never know until you tried and failed (or succeed). So do what you think you really want, but be prepared to be fully responsible for the outcome.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 22:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by bluefossil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends if you still have some romantic feeling for him. If you don't and you really value his friendship then you made the right move. Logically you two can't necessarily start over but you can just begin a different chapter in your relationship. You can acknowledge that at one point you were more than just friends and it just didn't work out and then move on from there.
2006-12-27 22:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by moma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long ago ur break-up was and if u still hv romantic feelings for him. If it was recent, then I think u made a mistake. It takes time to let those feelings die down. U should hv given urself time to get over him romantically n then pursue a friendship. If ur really over him and ur attempt at friendship is not secretly an attempt to get bk together then I say ur ok. I personally hv stayed friends with about 95% of ex's. That's bn accomplished with time, though.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 22:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by •♦๑•TxRose•♦๑• 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, unfortunately you can't start over. You already had a beginning, and that part is history. You still have the same difficulties you ever did, but now you are missing each other and want to get back together, but it won't work.
Sorry.
2006-12-27 22:25:58 · answer #5 · answered by Pamela V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its right, if your strong enough. everyone is different, I would have waited awhile first. But since you already talked to him, just take it casualy and once it gets hard for you, lay off and keep yourself busy. You might fall more in love with him with any contact, even as friends.
2006-12-27 22:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Achilles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, starting over works. You'll just have to know your strategies. I've done my homework and my relationship is going great! Good luck to you, Sweetie!
2006-12-27 22:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
differences in religion? You two must be very stubborn and closed-minded. Starting over isn't going to work it never does.
Friends isn't going to work either. Move on.
2006-12-27 22:25:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
People don't change. If you have differences now you will have differences later.
2006-12-27 22:24:26 · answer #9 · answered by dominosnate17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fine and you did okay. don't worry he said he would start over.your favor.
2006-12-27 22:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by shiznick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋