Man - 39 Woman - 28.... what could be some pros and/or cons of this age difference if any at all?
2006-12-27 14:05:37 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am 20 and my husband is 34. We don't really have many problems with our age diffearnce, other than people asking is he my dad. You are both adults and mature enough. I like older men better than men my own age anyway. They are more mature and responsible.
2006-12-27 14:09:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an age-gap relationship, 17 years difference between us.
There are a number of issues to consider.
Since you are a guy and she a woman, you won't have as much worry about whether you can have children. You have a little time to decide that issue. However, if you do have children at age 40, depending on how your health goes, you may not be around when they are going into college. Therefore, if you are going to have kids, make sure to obtain a good life insurance policy, one that will cover any remaining mortgage, any college expenses for any children, etc.
You will have a lot more experience at some things than your significant other. She may begin to feel smothered if you are always helping to show her the "right" way to do it. It will be very hard to step back and let her make her own way, but you really need to be prepared to allow her to make a certain number of mistakes.
You're going to be running into health problems sooner than she will, and chances are you will die a lot sooner than she will. You need to ensure there is a plan in place for that as mentioned already.
She really needs to think about that age difference and make sure she is OK with possibly being alone when she is just hitting her mid-50s. She needs to ensure she has a job skill that can carry her financially if there is need.
Yes, you may live longer than that -- but above age 60 things begin to go wrong, and it is not that uncommon for someone to die before then.
Good luck.
2006-12-27 14:20:46 · answer #2 · answered by Rubythorne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only problem I can see might be in what kind of activities the two of you are into. What people my age find entertaining is different then what people 10, 20 and 30 years younger than me do.
Other than that I think once both parties are over 21 then it really doesn't matter what the age difference is.
2006-12-27 14:14:21 · answer #3 · answered by rlkeebler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as both of them respect eachother and learn to grow together age doesn't matter as long as one is in 20's and above and the younger is 17 or younger. By the age of 28 you've matured enough to realize the good, the bad and the ugly. I know couples who has had a bigger age difference and their marriage is great. Best of luck.
2006-12-27 14:13:57 · answer #4 · answered by cheoli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the pros could be that the man can teach the woman the way the world works and what it was like in a different era. The cons are that older men sometimes can be more controling and abusive.
2006-12-27 14:10:32 · answer #5 · answered by myangelbarry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 11 years older than my husband, clear that, separated husband! Maybe it works for the guy to be 11 yrs older than the female. For some reason him being 11 years younger than me is not working!! I think you need to ask yourself and her, in 10 years, maybe even 5 years, what do you expect in a relationship? Kids? Early retirement and travel? How are the finances of you both? Money can be an issue with a younger person!!
2006-12-27 14:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by mindysbartenders 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we should allow society to dictate age restrictions in relationships. There is a 21 year age gap between my boyfriend and I (I'm 27). I have never been happier in my life. Just like with any relationship, it needs to have the essentials like trust, understanding, communication, interests, goals, etc. If those elements are in place, then nothing else matters. Love is the greatest feeling in the world, and age shouldn't stop anyone from experiencing it.
2006-12-29 03:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy-N-Luv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with it at all. Marriage is not based on age, it is based on love and mutual respect. As long as you have those things, you will have a great marriage.I actually have a girlfriend who is 44 and her husband has just turned 30, they have been married for 5yrs, have a 3 yr old daughter and are blissfully happy. Good luck to you both for a happy and harmonious marriage.
2006-12-27 14:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing worng with that as long as you both make each other happy and have a strong realtionship your age difference is not a problem, now if you were 68 and she were 28 I might think a little differently
2006-12-27 14:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Scooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me say that I am 38 years old and my Husband is 49, so no I see nothing wrong with it. I love my husband. But I will tell you that it gets harder, we have been together for over 10 years now and it seems like I still want to go out and do things and he just wants to sit at home.
If I go without him, I get the guilt trip. If I sit at home with him, Im bored and sooo tired of TV.
Its a choice that I will live with, but make sure its one you can.
2006-12-27 14:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by just_trump_my_ace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋