if you tell your parent that you are bisexual and that don't accept you what do you do?

Question

what if they said no you can not be

Answer 1

I'm not sure what your age is, but I assume young enough to need to live at home still.

There is no way for you to not be what you are. The problem is, they may never accept it. They can't however decide whether or not you ARE bisexual. They might eventual accept it; but if you are still pretty young, it probably isn't the best time to try discussing it.

We parents tend to think we CAN make out children what we want them to be--not because we want to control them, but because we love them and think we always know whats best for them. We also know from experience that sometimes young people think they know something about themselves only to find out differently. This isn't usually the case in regaurds to sexuallity.

Only you can decide if it's worth talking to them again in the future, but I think that at some point the topic will resurface. Hopefully next time, it will go much better. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Lots of great answers to your question. Lemme throw one important thing into the mix though...

If you are still a minor and living at home with your parents take into consideration the financial aspects before deciding whether or not to pick this battle at this moment. Would talking with them on this issue again just make life at home uncomfortable for a while? Or are they one of the handful of parents who would decide to kick their kid out of the house?

If talking with them again about this topic won't put you in danger of being kicked out then follow some of the great advice posted already. But if it might make the roof over your head disappear you might want to think about holding off on this conversation until you're not dependent on them financially.

It's just a suggestion based on practicality. I'm not suggesting you stay in the closet. And of course I'm gonna get some thumbs down on this simply for suggesting that you look out for your physical health too instead of just focusing on the mental and emotional health. But whatever. Being a gay teen on the street is tough. Tougher than being a straight teen on the street. And I don't want you to end up there.

Answer 3

Direct your parents to the below website and maybe order some literature for them to read. Some parents think they are the only ones and they are not. If you live in a metropolitan area, there maybe a pflag organizations around.

Don't think negative -- they may already know and are awaiting for you to tell them. Believe me, parents know.

Ignore the deviant pervert remarks, they're not strong enough to deal with what we have to deal with on a daily basis. That's why those people are called "straight."

Answer 4

You are the only one who can say what you feel. Do not let anyone else tell you that you are not something that you feel. If they love you, they will come around, and if not, then you will have to move on without them. Unfortunately if it is your parents, it may take a bit more time, but they love you and want the best for you, so they'll change their tune. Don't stress, just be yourself.

Answer 5

ooh that is a good one, I am a parent myself, I think that I would be disappointed at first but in time (after the shock wears off) If they are true parents, they will love you for who you are, NOT what you are. Just give them some time and try not to rub salt in the wound by keep reminding them. Try to understand this is not what they had always hoped for you. They should come around-----Good Luck

Answer 6

if they dont accept me being bisexual then after a while i will tell them that was a joke coz am not ready to loose my parents but that doesnot mean i will stop being bisexual

Answer 7

you gotta understand stuff like that is hard for parents to accept. It probably will get better over time. Just live your life like you want to, but still maintain active communication with your parents. Parents will usually always come to terms with such things.

Answer 8

Try talking to them again about it and if tha doesn't work just tell them you bisexual and they have to del with it.

Answer 9

they have no control over your sexuality. it is sad if they decide they want to disown you as a family member..

reach out and make new friends in the bi communites. we're all here to love and emotionally support each other.

Answer 10

My mom did something like that when I told her I was gay. She said, "No, you aren't. It's just a phase." It's best to ignore them, be happy with yourself, and hope they learn.