I want to wear make-up, but i don't think i'm allowed yet...?

Question

I want to wear make-up, but i don't think my mom will let me yet. All my friends wear make-up... I'm 12. How can I ask her without her laughing in my face?

Answer 1

Natural is beauty! I do not need to make-up at my ago. That is my choice. When I feel I need to make-up i will ask for you how to make me looking better.

Answer 2

Just take a deep breath, try to sound serious, and say, "Mom, do you think I could try a little make-up? Just like a little lipstick and eyeshadow?" The worst she can do is say no. If she does, just try for a little, like colored lip gloss and blush or something. Many moms think a little is okay starting around 12, or sometime in middle school. The key to getting her to say yes is having a good argument and some examples planned before you ever have the discussion. "Just because the others are" might not be a good enough reason for her, so maybe you could explain that it helps improve your appearance. It really depends on how she feels about the issue. I'd say your chances are 50/50, but maybe a little better if you plan your reasons and sound logical -- not emotional -- when you explain it to her. If you get upset and cry or complain she might use that as proof you're not mature enough.

Answer 3

I'm a mom, I have a 14 yr. old daughter, she started wearing SOME light make-up when she was 12. Like lip gloss and light blush and eye shadow, just recently I've let her start using eye liner and mascara- not to school, but on weekends. Just ask your mom and tell her you just want to see what it looks like on you, and also ask her to show you how to use it. If you ask her to help you, she won't laugh. I think my daughter is beautiful without the make-up, but she is even more beautiful with it on. Good Luck!! Just talk to your mom.

Answer 4

Oh, please, think about waiting for makeup. You might feel like your are the odd one out, but please, consider waiting until you are at least 15. I started wearing make-up in the 6th grade. Now I am so freaking insecure with make up. That's not a good thing. I know I don't really need it, I look fine w/out it. But I envy the girls who dont wear makeup. They are so beautiful. Not b/c of their looks only, b/c of thei personality's and their confidence in themselves. If you look anything like any of the 12 yr olds I know, you guys are already beautiful without the makeup. Don't try to grow up too fast!!! (you most likely hate me for saying that, I used to get so frustrated with my mom when she would say that to me when I was 12! But the sad thing is, she was right) I hope you wait. You won't regret it.

(PS- another reason to wait, this one will come into play when you are 15/16. guys like girls who wear less makeup, no joke! In the end, they want girls who don't hide behind masks)

Answer 5

Honey, why do you want to grow up that quickly?

If your mother says no, that's because one of her concerns is that you want to look older than you are. That's very, very dangerous. I know you don't understand that, but it is. Part of your mother's role, and your father's as well, is to protect you as you learn to be an adult. But adulthood, that's still a long way off for you.

Do yourself a favor and don't use the "everyone else is wearing makeup" argument. It won't help you. In fact, it could very easily set you back in terms of the trust that you have already earned from your parents. Don't laugh at that statement - it's the truth! It doesn't mean that they completely trust you, but you have been earning their trust for years now.

What is appropriate for you now is to learn to take care of your skin, and your mother should be able to help you with that. Ask for that help. First, ask for it because it's yet another small step in growing up and earning your parents trust and respect. But even more important, proper skin care is important not only in preventing serious skin diseases but as a good foundation for wearing makeup, when it's appropriate for you to do so.

Also, using the "everyone else does it" argument really shows that you're not using your own head and making your own decisions. These things would show that you are growing up.

I can pretty much guarantee you that if don't insist on it, if you ask for help from your mother in learning how to take care of your skin, of your body and of yourself, if you show that you are capable of thinking on your own, you'll earn that trust much faster than if you show the child that's still in you. (Every one of us has a bit of a child in us, but at 12, you're still pretty much more child than adult. It's just the way it is.) Remember I said pretty much, and I said that simply because I don't know your mother, but I know parents.

I know this isn't the answer that you were looking for, but sometimes the answer is no. At least now you have some idea of why this answer will probably be no.

Answer 6

Try asking for "light" touches of make-up first. Let her get used to seeing you in it and let her see how responsible and mature you really are. Ask for a bit of lip stick/gloss, blush or pressed powder. Something sheer. Tell her you only want to highlight your NATURAL beauty and that you understand beauty is on the INSIDE, not the outside! I'm sure if you act like an adult (even if at first she says no!) she will begin to see you more as an adult eventually.
Good luck.....EVEN if she says no today, YOUR reaction could change her mind tomorrow. Show he how responsible and mature you are!

Answer 7

Well I am 12 too. My mom won't let me wear make-up until I am 15 years long, a long way away. I asked her for special occasions and she said yes. Just slowly break her down until she says yes. Or bring it up casually. Go to the store and say "Mom, can I get that eyeshadow? It's so pretty! The best color ever!"

Answer 8

I wouldn't point out that all your friends are doing it. That is irrelevant to a parent looking out for your best interest. Explain that you have a desire to try age-appropriate makeup. After all, beauty is not about copying anyone, but brining out your own beauty. Ask her advice even, if she wears makeup. She'll be flattered, I'm sure. But respect her decision, whatever it is. Always keep on good terms. She'll appreciate your repect and will be more likely to be open to allowing you to do things in the future. Best wishes!

Answer 9

i no how u feel. when i first started wearing makeup my mom hated it. and guess what? she still does! but my point is that if ur mom really does care about u and want ya to be happy, i dont think she would laugh or not let u wear it. but u should consider asking urself first; do i look dead or so AWFUL without it?beacause if not u dont really need to wear it yet unless u really want to.

Answer 10

I started wearing make up at your age, but I started slowly. Make up can look terrible if you don't know what you're doing. Read up on it. Buy some magazines or check out some tips online. Go for natural rather than dramatic. I started out wearing lipgloss and mascara. Those are good products to start out with.

Answer 11

first wear the makeup and see how your mom reacts when she sees you....if she says no act mature and explain to her how dissapointed you are and that u hope shell let u use it later shell probably shorten that time and when she see ur reaction shell think that ur mature and mite change her answer...but if she still says no make sure u obey her cuz she might no let u wear makeup for a Loooooong time if she finds out u disobeyed her!!