i feel i've finally met the man of my dreams. can't find a thing that i don't like about him. we are both in our early 50's and belive life is too short NOT to marry if we both love each other. neither want to grow old alone. thoughts?
2006-12-27 13:51:33 · 35 answers · asked by msnjph 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I sincerely hope it can work! My husband and I met and moved in together after 2 weeks and married after 3 months. We are both divorced with grown children and knew just what we wanted in a companion. Why wait when you find everything you have ever dreamed of and you are old enough to know? (both in 50's)
2006-12-27 13:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I moved to a different state and met my husband seven months after being in the new state. Four months later we were married. Six months later I realized that we should have waited ... we both realized that. You cannot get to know a person in two months or even six months. It takes time to get to know a person. Although I have heard that many people get married after dating for two weeks and end up together for a lifetime. I just don't recommend it. Once you get married all kinds of other issues (if there are any) will come to light and it will be too late. Sure, you could get a divorce but that's the easy way out. When you are married to somebody it should be a lifetime commitment.
Now that I look back - we were forced to become lovers before we could be friends. You want to be friends first so that you all can have an everlasting relationship.
There will always be new things to learn about your spouse after you are married, but I would atleast learn the basics first (personality, etc.).
Good Luck!
2006-12-27 15:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was answering this question a few years ago, then I would have said to wait but after I was divorced, I now believe you do whatever you want that makes you happy without hurting anyone.
I knew my ex for 5 years before we got married because he wanted to wait and the marriage was over in less than 3 years.
And in the other hand, my sister was engaged within 3 months of meeting her husband and they were married in less than a year. They now have 2 children and have been married for over 6 years.
Do what you feel from the heart.
Are right, life is too short, have fun and enjoy.
Happy New Year!
2006-12-28 00:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by mooster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At that age I see why you consider life to be short but you're not being very realistic. You don't REALLY know him. You only get to know anybody over time. Marriage should be based on true love and compatibility. There is no reason to rush into marriage and commitment. You don't have to be alone, share you lives together, develop a friendship. A genuine friendship can be just as amazing and worthwhile plus a lot safer as far as regrets. I would think if anything you would have learned in your lifetime instant gratification is just that. It the same thing as a child wanting to get older so they can experience life only to want to regress when they get older realizing life is best experienced appreciating the moment rather than anticipating the future.
2006-12-27 13:59:48 · answer #4 · answered by Bonita Applebaum 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My aunt and uncle have been married for over 30 years after 2 weeks of dating so it can work on the other hand you are in your 50s what would be the point I know people who have been together from way back in the early 80s and never got married that little piece of paper is not going to make you stay together
2006-12-27 13:56:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes life is short and I have a romantic story for you. My grandparents met and married after knowing each other 2 weeks. My grandfather was driving on a bridge and saw my grandmother (young woman of age 23 at the time) walking on the side of the bridge (she was on her way to work.) He offered her a ride and she thought to herself, why not he looks like a safe kid anyway. He was actually 2 years older than her and when she got off work he was waiting for her outside the building to take her home. The rest is history. They were married 44 yrs until my Grandma passed away.
2006-12-27 13:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not in my opinion,And you must be dreaming if you think that 2 months is long enough to know what that man is really like.Life is short,but 2 months is shorter.And it's not so short that you can't take more time to get to know him better.At this stage of the game you should know that love can blind you so much that you forget to use common sense.That is what will help you make the right decision,and not go into something with your eyes wide shut.
2006-12-27 14:46:31 · answer #7 · answered by Willnotlietoyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok but remember this you are older and set in your ways and things change as soon as you move together and say I do. If your gonna be so in love then whats the rush do you think it will go aways. You need to find out more about what you both want and expect out of one another are I will see you soon on divorce court. God Bless you I'm so in love in 2 months Ha Ha!
2006-12-27 13:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by tellthetruth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm 47, not far behind you in age, and I don't think I'd do it that quickly. But that's just me. Sounds like you know what you want, and he is on the same page.
Just don't do it out of desperation. Even in your 50s, there are plenty of great men around. (That's been my experience, and I'm on the downhill slide to 50.)
Good luck! Maybe we'll see you posting minor questions about your (happily) married life!
2006-12-27 14:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband asked me to marry him less than a week after our first date. (We had met several times and talked very little a few times prior to that first date over a 2 year period.) We were married 7 months after that. We just celebrated our 12th anniversary a week before Christmas. So, yes, I do believe it can work out. :-)
2006-12-27 21:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Niki L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋